“I liked this podcast and ironically really connected with the one about boundaries and Rebecca’s story with her parents. But in a recent episode Michelle said basically, “ no parent wants to harm their child. And I always say ‘no blame or shame to the parents because they all do the best they can’.”
While in context to healthy families that may be absolutely true, but this sends a bad message especially to ones who grew up being abused and shaming themselves thinking it was their fault. The truth is there are bad people in this world, and some of them are parents and some DO NOT CARE if they hurt their child or their spouse in front of their child. Whether it is mental illness or what causing it, it happens and sometimes a lot of recovery and not blaming themselves for the abuse is needed. A kid has no choice but to take it and live with it. Some parents do want to cause harm and actually enjoy doing it, whether it be means of control, etc. I have a lot of healing to do and have always thought if I were a better daughter I would have been treated better. It has taken a lot of therapist trauma healing to be able to feel like I actually deserve to live a full happy life. And the control that to this day is still put over my Dad is absolutely terrible. I write this in hopes you will do better for the tender hearts listening to your podcast for help. This is not a good statement to put out.”
Theprincessk via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/04/23