The battle between team Trish and team Olin is continuing. Are you ready for a pillow fight in our big Ole bed? The topic is as hot as usual and is obviously adding to the fire: What is a healthy relationship for you?  Does it mean a safe environment when you can be yourself and express your thoughts freely without being judged? Can a couple be in healthy relationships but have disagreements? Does it mean to keep your independence or spend every moment together? There are so many scenarios,...

Finally, we have a battle that many were waiting for: team Trish and team Olin are meeting in one big Ole bed to duel it out. And the topic is hotter than ever: What is a healthy relationship for you? Does it involve honesty, transparency, give & take, trust, communication, empathy, or just a desire to talk it over? Is women's perspective on healthy relationships any different from male's? The conversation got so hot that the executive producer KI from Bed-Stuy couldn't help himself from...

Great minds don't always feel supported by their significant others. How do you succeed if your loved one doesn't believe in your dreams? Should you even stay in this relationship? Does every dreamer need to have a provider?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...  Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast...

What do you do if your significant other doesn't believe in you or your dreams? Will this relationship have a chance to survive? Not everybody is equally yoked: someone is learning by doing, someone needs to get inspired... Can one support his/her partner despite not seeing the big picture? How important is your partner's support for you? Where is the line between practical criticism and disbelief?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed....

Being alone isn't the same as being lonely. Can you be your own best friend? Or do you always need to be surrounded by people?  What does aloneness mean to you? Would you consider yourself being alone while being in multiple situationships? How long would you wait before starting a new relationship?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...  Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova Podcast host...

Everyone has limits, how long before being alone becomes intolerable? How comfortable are you with aloneness? Is going from relationship to relationship healthy? Do you give yourself enough time to reflect on a broken relationship before jumping to a new one? How important is giving yourself a break? Being in-between relationships, can you just focus on yourself?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the...

What is worse: to date a slob or a neat freak? When the obsession with cleanliness becomes a disorder? On the opposite spectrum, would you be with someone, who is a hoarder? How to find and set the right boundaries?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...  Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia...

Is being messy a deal-breaker? Can a neat person date a slob? Does the untidy environment reflect the messiness of the inner world of the person? Is being busy an excuse to be a slob? What if you are an artist and you need a little bit of mess to create? How to find the balance?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...  Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova Podcast host and co-producer: Olin...

We are continuing to talk about the most common biggest first-date mistakes. Unfortunately, dealing with the first date disappointment is a natural process of dating. How to prevent common mistakes? How many phone conversations required before going on a date? How to manage expectations? Can you recover from a bad date? There is a lot to talk about in our big Ole bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...  Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova Podcast host and co-producer: Olin -...

This episode is about a 'failure to launch': the most common biggest first-date mistakes. What is more stressful for you: the first date or a job interview? In both instances, you need to sell your personality. How to keep your authenticity and not scare away a potential new love? How to make the first date enjoyable and not stressful? How to define mistakes that are irreversible or can be forgiven? Being late, constantly checking your phone, focusing on yourself, coming too strong, lacking...

Is it normal to have a 'wandering eye'? None of us are immune to temptation. We all have our own reasons. Is it ok if someone likes to 'check out the menu without ordering? Does a wandering eye have to lead to infidelity? Is there any difference between online and in-person wandering? Is it a sign of insecurity if your partner's 'wandering eye' makes you feel upset? Can you talk it over?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's...

How do you deal with conflicts? Are you critical or understanding? Do you have a conflict avoidance strategy or are you a straight shooter? How to deal with these differences? Is miscommunication ripping the fabric of your relationship? Can two people talk it over?  How to resolve the conflict after the conflict? What does it take to start listening to each other?  We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. And shout out to the comments from...

Would you date a single parent? Do you have your own children? Are you ready to become a stepparent? Do you realize that when you dating someone with children you are not just dating - you are committing? Do you even like kids? What questions do you need to discuss with your potential loved one before stepping into this minefield? Are you ready to deal with teenager problems? Will your partner be ok if you start to discipline his/her child? It doesn't matter if you have answers now. When you...

Can you really be friends with your ex? Did you ask yourself, why you want to be friends with your ex? Are there still some feelings involved? Are you in a new relationship? How does your new love react to your ex's existence? Does your family support you? How do you avoid unnecessary drunken arguments that can often accompany transitions? How do you know when to set boundaries, and when to keep that person close?  There is a lot to talk it over. Please meet our amazing guests and let's pull...

How can religious/cultural/racial differences impact your relationships? What if your family or community does not support your choice due to historical or cultural experiences and/or prejudices? Is it bigotry, close-mindedness, or just preference? Is it a typical dilemma for families, where parents are following their traditional beliefs but children don't stay within the cultural/racial boundaries? How to navigate dating life when you are struggling to find your own identity? What is worse:...

One of the toughest struggles in the dating process is to create an open line of communication about money. What if your partner is experiencing a job loss due to the pandemic or going through a career change? Can you openly talk about it? Would you feel diminished if you are dating someone who has more money/status than you? How do you feel about a partner who earns less and cannot afford to pay for dinner? Is financial status one of your priorities in choosing a partner? What is the...

We already know that there are 5 Love Languages (check the episode from Jan 26, 2021). Apparently, there are another 5 languages that define our relationship with sex and each other. How do you like to be loved? Have you ever felt like you and a partner were not speaking the same language in the bedroom? Have you ever felt misunderstood for your sex preferences or judged your partner for his/her? But wait, are there only 5 categories on what is turning us on and how we most like to receive...

Do you know what happens if you invite a writer, a comedian, a marriage therapist, a wellness coach, and a producer to the show and put them in one big ole bed? - you have an amazing episode of TalkItOver. And we are going to talk about the biggest fears in starting a new relationship. Have you ever heard that the word FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real? Basically, there’s no threat or risk of a failure in the present but our mind reconstructs an illusion based on the past...

Love languages: can you name all five of them? What if your partner's love languages don't match yours? Can you adjust if you really care about your loved one? What to do if your partner keeps misinterpreting your needs and, for example, brings you chocolate when what you really need is a hug? Should you learn all five languages to prevent any misunderstandings? Do your love languages change through time? We have an amazing group of people in our big ole bed and even a professional audience...

If you have ever created a dating account, you know that most dating sites require a short story/bio to complete your profile. But must the story also be 100% true to be effective? Can lies assist you to attract the right one? Or will it be a big turn-off when the truth is revealed? Is any lie a deal-breaker? Or can a small exaggeration get a pass? What's the fine line between deception and embellishment? A Kaspersky survey of online daters from around the world found that over half of online...

How soon is too soon to begin dating after a breakup? Is the first person you date after a breakup, the "rebound"? What are the chances that a post-breakup partner will heal the wound but also become the ONE? Do you need to have a rebound to fix a self-confidence breach? After being hurt by your ex-relationship, is it fair to use and potentially hurt someone else? We cannot control the pain caused by a breakup, but can we learn a lot from it? Would it be better to start re-building yourself...

Can you have a full-on relationship with someone who is taken? What if you fell in love with a married man/woman? Is it an open relationship when all parties know what is going on? Or is it one gate play? Are you familiar with the phrase: if you have to hide it, you know it is wrong? Are you ok to be a second priority? What happens when you are married and get engaged in a side relationship? Is it possible to keep both parties satisfied? But is having an affair on a side indicates a deeper...

We always start our episodes with a feel-good story to create unity among the guests and the right mood for the question-of-the-day conversation.This time, the story about JBJ Soul Foundation's initiative brought up by our co-host Maya-Mae engaged everyone in a 35 min stand-alone discussion about problems of homelessness in New York and beyond.There are 57,341 homeless people, including 18,653 children, sleeping each night in the New York City municipal shelter system. New York City has more...

For the first time in the history of the TalkItOver show, we are going to talk in our big ole bed about SEX. Why so many people are afraid to talk about sex while dating? Is it a bad habit to avoid this conversation to keep the mystery? How to address sensitive issues without making a wrong impression? Does talking about sex mean that you up for it? Should you lay it all right away on the table or keep it to yourself? Can the first sex fiasco with a new partner kill the future of this...