There are multiple ways to break up. It appears that texting is not the worst method of all. There are Facebook, WhatsApp, Email, phone call, ask a friend-options that can be equally painful... How to end your relationship in a less harmful way? Does this way even exist? How to handle a break-up in an abusive relationship? Will the remote breakup come in handy? How to navigate your emotions and communication during pandemics? How to see the end of relationships as an opportunity and...

Is marriage still seen as an essential step in a successful life? According to the Pew Research Center only about half of Americans over age 18 are married. This is down from 72% then we had 40 years ago, while divorce rates have been significantly raising especially among older Americans.So, is Marriage still a goal? Why are men and women shying away from commitment? Is it a natural fear of rejection or being controlled? Could we see it as a positive trend? What if a delay in marriage allows...

What are the emotional differences between males and females? Are women more complicated than men? How does this difference affect dating and relationships? What does a woman's "Fine" actually mean? What are the clues to read women's reactions? Is it even possible for men to understand women and vice versa? Is it going to remain an unsolved mystery? Or should you start by understanding yourself first? We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed...

While we are fast approaching the holiday season, it comes with the pressure of meeting with the family and socializing. Imagine on top of that you are planning to invite your significant other to the family gathering for the first time? Have you discussed it with your beau? What if your celebration-styles don’t match? What if your partner doesn’t like holidays or doesn't like your family? Do you need to make a choice and spend a holiday season with your partner or your family? Ultimately,...

Before going deep into the topic let's clarify the semantics: courting vs dating. What comes first? What term has a more serious connotation and consequences? Is it fair to your potential and yourself to be committed to monogamy from the first date? Or is dating a numbers game? At what stage of 'courting'/'dating' do two or people need to communicate their expectations and set the boundaries? Why is this conversation difficult for some? How do different attachment styles affect your dating...

What to do if you are dating someone who is on the opposite side of the political, cultural and/or religious spectrum? Would you date someone who didn’t share your political beliefs and voted for the "other guy"? It might have been harder to do during the current nontraditional presidency, but can we still listen to each other and cherish our shared values? Following famous JFK words: "ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country" - can two people live, love...

How to introduce your date to your colleagues and/or friends for the first time? What if you just run into your coworker or aunt while on a first or second outing with your new possibility? Is there a protocol?  How to introduce someone without labels and further unnecessary questions? When should you discuss the 'introduction protocol' with your 'possibility'? Are you both comfortable with "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" titles? Is there recovery after the wrong introduction? We are not trying...

Tit for Tat: who really does play the most games (innocent or otherwise) in courtship? According to some statistics, females give false names, males give a false relationship status. Females lie about their weight, guys lie about the height... Why do people lie when they are dating, especially dating online? Is dishonesty a part of human nature? Or is it a defense mechanism or a sign of insecurity? What lies are forgivable and what lies should raise red flags? We are not trying to find the...

Can love overcome any obstacles and conquer all? What is love and does it really have such powers? Is it the only ingredient that guarantees "happily-ever-after"? Or is it another 'big fat lie' about relationships? Where does love go when life is not perfect and/or when people aren't perfect? Or does real love help to get past the bad times and give you a reason to work harder at your relationship? Can love overcome hate and change the world? We are not trying to find the right answers. We...

Is jealousy healthy in a relationship? Part 2 - it is a revisiting of one of the hot topics/episodes posted in early 2020 and received the most attention from the podcast listeners. What is jealousy? Is it a symptom of insecurity? Or is it an indication of a lack of respect or attention from your partner? How should it be addressed? Can jealousy be cured? Or is it an integral part of love?We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's...

Draw me a picture: should goals and ambitions match? Should you be open about your intentions? For example, what if you want to get married or looking for a sugar daddy? Or what if you look for a business partner or investor? Should you be clear about your intentions from day one? Can you date a less ambitious person or do you​ ​need to be with someone who accepts your level of ambition and doesn't get in the way? Is there a healthy recipe for a healthy career path and love life?  We are not...

What Is Love? Does it last forever? - it was the very first topic that TalkItOver podcast was launched with back in December and collected the highest number of listeners. Nine months later, we are revisiting this hot topic with the new guests and a new twist: Situationship vs Relationship. How to determine which of the 'ships' you are in? What is a situationship? Aren't we all in some sort of 'situation' as it pertains to relationships? Can a situationship become a relationship? We are not...

“As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” - Gandhi. Does the same principle apply to love-relationships? Do you even agree that personality is changing through life? Does true love mean that your love partner loves you as you are? When is it necessary to change because your bachelor's habits affecting your love-relationships? Or how to deal with your partner's personality change because of aging? If personality is not fixed, how much you can...

Does sharing your life with someone mean being always honest? What if your 'past love' skeletons have the potential to harm your new relationships? What is a comfortable level of sharing? Do you need to tell your date about your strange little habits and/or a one-night stand in college? How soon into courting should you start to share information that might affect your relationship? We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull...

The topic of today's episode is: How to balance/choose between the desire to travel and being in relationships. What happens if your partner wants to settle down and not excited about the next flight and a hotel stay? What if your partner cannot travel with you, will you stay? Travel is supposed to broaden the perspective...can travel help you understand who you are? Do some people choose travel vs relationships to escape from the existing reality and run away from themselves? How to find the...

The topic of today's episode is: How to create a healthy well-balanced relationship with your parents? What if you are dating while living with your parents? What if your parents are too involved in your personal life? How to set boundaries? Is it your or your partner's responsibility? But before pulling back the sheets and jump to a regular discussion, we'd like to start our episode with the team's temperature check and reflection on the current social unrest and injustice. The summer is...

What does it mean when your significant other calls you by the wrong name? Is it a big problem for you? Is it his/her ex or a family member or a boss? Did it happen more than once? Or what if your partner calls you by several different names? Is it enough reason to be suspicious? It is definitely enough reason to have a conversation and talk it over, the same way we are talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and...

According to Max Baucus: "A true definition of compromise – a little give, a little take”. As stated by Elitesingles.com: "Reaching a compromise is a chance to expand your emotional intelligence and capacity for empathy." Is the winning formula in compromise to incorporate both of your needs to create a new version? How to know when to compromise in a relationship and when to say no? What is a healthy compromise? Does compromise mean to surrender? How to find a happy medium? What are the...

What is your first reaction when you hear: "We Need To Talk"? Are you in trouble? How to address sensitive issues without hurting your partner's feelings? How to maintain healthy relationships and develop positive communications while raising unpleasant topics in personal life/work/family? According to a relationship coach Dr. Susan Edelman: "When you can express yourself to your partner in a constructive way, it often brings you closer together. You’re not likely to feel understood if you...

Should you be the most important person in your significant other's life? We all agree that great relationships don't happen by itself, they require constant work and effort. Does this involve prioritizing your partner before anything else: before Friends, before Family, before Children? If you met "the love of your life', does that mean that the majority of your time and attention must be devoted to him/her? Is it ok to tuck away some of your own goals and aspirations because something has...

Should your partner be your champion or your challenger? Can two people who are polar opposites on the political/social/cultural spectrum be in healthy relationships? Can you date a person with extreme political views? Can they talk it over? Who would you prefer to be locked with during pandemic? Can one person combine both characteristics depending on the situation? We don't have the answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...Host &...

While the summer temperature outdoor is rising, the TalkItOver team and friends are getting together to check up on the team's temperature. Dealing with Coronavirus since March has been a big test for everyone's sanity and well being, but it’s certainly not the only unprecedented challenge we’re facing right now. The social unrest we are witnessing in the US for the last couple of months revealed a bigger virus that we have been dealing for centuries.Although the show is about dating and...

(April recording) Would you be open to having a conversation about opening your relationship? How is it different from other non-monogamy types? Why do some people still need to explore more options when they have great loved-one at home? Do open relationships require a certain level of maturity and communication? Is it for everyone? How important are emotional and sexual boundaries in open relationships? How is it different from the traditional ones? Do open relationships mean couples are...

How do you deal with the situation when you are in love with someone but yours and/or your partner's parents don't approve? How to deal with the parents not liking your boyfriend/girlfriend based on cultural, religious, racial, or social differences? Are there any peaceful ways to open parents' minds? What if parents may have a very legitimate reason for disliking their child’s choice? How to justify that they have the right concerns especially if you are in love?  We are not trying to find...

What love lessons did you have to unlearn from childhood? Where did you learn it? TV? Books? Parents? Peers? Or maybe your last break-up? How many of them does a person need to overcome and learn that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship? Is Love is a learning process with the main objective to learn more about yourself? And if so might it take a lifetime...? We are not subject matter experts and not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our individual...