Ep 48. The surprising secret to a successful sex life. Ever wondered what the most important thing is for a successful sex life? Let me tell you, on the surface it may not be the sexiest thing you could think of… BUT oh my goddess does it work!! In this society where you have expectations for instant gratification but when it comes to pleasure it takes commitment & dedication (with so much deliciousness) to have the experiences you really desire!  I’ll dig into the sexy science...

Curious to understand what Tantra is? And…. more importantly how you can use it to experience multi-orgasmic bliss? Luckily for you it’s easy and delicious. Tantra teaches you to be deeply present in the moment, to embrace whatever emotions arise and use them as alchemy for multi-orgasmic bliss.  As your host of Unlocked & Unrestricted AND the co-founder of the London School of Tantra, I’m on a mission to demystify these practices, bringing them into the mainstream so you can...

Ever wondered what it would take to have the best sex of your life? What if I told you it only took three simple steps? It’s easy to get stuck in this idea of what sex should or should not look like and this  overthinking prevents you from enjoying that sexy present moment.  BUT when you're able to adopt the mindset of experimentation following my three simple steps this leads to never ending mind-blowing sex. Why? Because the possibilities are endless!!  In this episode I’m getting...

Ever felt like your sex life has become stale or stagnant? Or found yourself repeating the same sex moves again and again, wondering, there must be more to sex then this?! Today, I'm spilling the beans on my second secret to epic sex that means your sex life will never be stale again. And the magic ingredient? PLAY.  In this episode you’re going to learn my three key mindset shifts to infuse play effortlessly into your sex life. Forget doing more or trying different things; the key is...

Inner critic secreting killing your libido? We all know the inner critic voice, the one that tells you you're not good enough, you're doing it wrong, you’re broken because you can’t turn on… Well, in this episode, I'm serving up the antidote to shut your inner critic down for good -  and guess what? It's simple. All you need is to embrace a mindset of curiosity. So why does curiosity work like magic? You’ll want to listen to this week’s episode because I’m unraveling the science and sharing...

Ever found yourself reaching for the vibrator again and again but wishing you didn’t need it to orgasm? In this episode we're delving into a topic so many women talk to me about - the reliance on vibrators to orgasm.  I’ll be sharing the secrets to multi orgasmic states of bliss using ONLY the power of your hands, a lover's hands, or totally hands free (yes it’s 100% a thing). It’s crucial to switch your mindset when it comes to orgasmic bliss moving away from those clitoral focused...

Ever felt like your orgasm could have a little more oomph? Well, you’re in the right place. This isn't just about having an orgasm but taking it to the next level, with full-bodied multi-organismic experiences.  You’ll be amazed at the power and sexual confidence that comes with this when you have this skill at your fingertips. In this episode, I'll peel back the layers and reveal the three breathwork practices you need to awaken your full orgasmic potential. What you’ll learn from...

Ever wished you could just get you in the mood anytime you desired to? Well get ready for THE #1 hack that will transform your sex life. And the secret?... Nourishment and self care, that’s right it’s that simple. Think of it like this: would you fill your car with expired gas and expect a smooth ride? So why treat your body any differently? When you prioritise self-care, you’re saying to your nervous system "Hey, I'm worth it! I deserve to feel good, inside and out." And guess what? That...

Ever desired to deepen your connection to your pussy? So you can learn what turns you on, experience your f**k yes, and feel confident in your sexual skills? There are so many reasons you become disconnected from your pussy. These range from societal / cultural / religious shame, experiences of trauma or simply the feeling of not knowing where to begin. This episode is for you to deepen your connection to yourself and your pussy. To learn what turns you on, use this practice as a healing...

Want to learn how to use pussy massage for sexual healing? You’re in the right place! Your body stores tension within the muscular tissue from suppressed emotions, stress and past trauma. For many women a lot of this tension is is stored in the pelvis which leads to feelings of numbness, lack of arousal and even painful sex. Luckily, the solution is seriously pleasurable, and it comes in the form of the pussy massage. What blows my mind is that the more you release the tension the more...

Does the weight of the world ever feel too much? Whether there’s war waging or you’re going through an intense break up. The intensity of emotions that arise, sorrow, anger, grief can be overwhelming. It’s tempting to bury these feelings but what happens when you do this is you don’t just shut down the painful emotions, you also shut down your bliss, your joy, your sensual energy leading to a feeling of numbness. This is probably one of the most important podcast episodes I've recorded...

Want to be that lover they can’t stop talking about? Want to blow you dates away with your sexual confidence? Well it’s easier then you think. Recently I found myself at party and fully out of my depth, I could have freaked out but instead I leant in, tapped into my erotic energy and backed myself. What happened next blew my mind and I realised the secret to being an unforgettable lover isn’t about you sexual skills it’s all about your depth of presence. If you want to learn how you can...

Stress is the biggest mood-killer in history. We live in a fast-paced, always connected, always ON world where being stressed simply feels like the norm. This kills your turn on! It’s impossible to feel aroused when you’re in this state of tension, whether work stress, family stress, kid stress, or even stress because you’re never in the mood for sex! Luckily I have the answer for you and it’s going to transform not your sex life but your whole life. Tune in to learn the most pleasure...

Want to experience more orgasmic ecstasy? To have those orgasms that make you weak at the knees? I’m sharing the core thing that’s keeping you stuck from experiencing this tidal wave of pleasure and the #1 action you can take to fix it. Once you finish this episode you’ll realise how good it gets to be and how to experience orgasmic ecstasy with ease. What you’ll learn from this episode: The power of orgasmic pleasure and how to experience WAY more of it Why you’re stuck in your...

Want to know one sex tip that will mean you have the most EPIC sex? All you need is a simple word. This will get you out of your head, eradicate performance anxiety, and feel that full bodied f**k yes to pleasure and bliss. I’m not going to give you much info here because you’ll really want to listen in to the whole episode. What you’ll learn from this episode: My #1 tip that will change your sex life forever, that’s it. ;) Featured on the show: Jump on the VIP list for...

Ever wanted to know how to have a squirting orgasm? Well, wonder no more because in this episode I’m giving you the low down, the 101, on this beautiful orgasm. I know I’ve been teasing you with this one for MONTHS. I’m giving you the sex education you never received about this elusive and sought after big O. I’ve you’ve been listening to me for a while you’ll know I do things a little differently. This guide is not all about the tips and tricks BUT all about the mindset shifts that will...

Do you fear the judgement of others? Does this stop you from exploring the sex life you long for? This fear of judgement makes a tonne of sense because of the societal norms you grew up with. These norms coupled with a fear of rejection limit you from fully embracing your desires especially when it comes to the sex life and love life you really want. Luckily you have a superpower within you that can transform all this into a sense of freedom to follow your desires. It’s so simple it’ll...

Do you desire to find “the one”? Well this might trigger some of you but, I don’t believe “the one” exists. There’s a narrative we’re spoon fed by films and society that prince charming will appear and you’ll live happily ever after. These narratives create pressure the find the perfect romantic partner, settle down, get married and have kids, but the stark reality is 50% of marriages end in divorce and I see so many couples stick together even when their values aren’t aligned anymore. On...

Have you ever been enjoying sex with a lover and suddenly all the turn on and pleasure disappears? This is totally normal and it’s not something I hear talked about. Just like you have a window of tolerance, for pain and discomfort, aka how much you can experience before going into fight/flight/freeze… You also have a window of tolerance for the things that feel good too. You can visualise your capacity for pleasure as an elastic band that can continue and stretch to experience more and...

Find yourself obsessing about whether they’ll text you back? And actually all you want is to feel chilled about it? I’ve discovered an EPIC mindset shift that has taken all the obsessing and stress out of my dating life and I couldn’t keep it to myself! Three weeks ago I was sitting drinking a hot cup of cacao and tuning into some Erotic Mindfulness and it was like lighting bolt of wisdom struck my entire being. Since this landed I’ve been on more dates in the past three weeks then the past...

How can I be a sexual liberation coach without LOVING to tell you all the secrets?! Let’s be real, our worlds revolve around our relationships, or lack there of, and our sex lives, or lack there of. And unless we have the feeling of sexual liberation we won’t feel that life satisfaction we all deeply desire. This is why when you reclaim your sexual energy and have it as fuel for you whole life this leads to a feeling of freedom from the bedroom, to the boardroom. When you are filled up to...

Want to know the biggest question I get asked in my DMs?! “Where can I learn more about Tantric sex?” People share with me how they’re tired of having sex that feels performative, that’s always focused on penetration and orgasm, that leaves them feeling empty and disconnected. But! They’ve heard Tantra might be able to help. Well, they’re absolutely right!! Which is why I’m excited to demystify Tantra and share with you how Tantra can support you to have some seriously mind-blowing...

How do I receive what I desire?! Get ready for part 3 of this three-part desire filled series, because what’s the point in discovering what you want AND asking for it, if you can’t enjoy it when you get it?! Now I hear from the women I work with ALL THE TIME that when they get a turn to receive all these thoughts crop up “is my partner enjoying this?” “am I taking too long?” “what do I look right now?”. All this noise is getting in the way of you relaxing and simply enjoying the pleasure...

Part 2 - Asking for what you want. How do I ask for what I desire?! Get ready for part 2 of this three-part desire filled series. Now I know there can be so much fear that comes up, especially the fear of rejection. What I find sits underneath this fear is… “I don’t deserve to ask for this desire” because if you feel worthy and deserving then receiving a “no” doesn’t feel like rejection. So the biggest thing you can do to feel confident asking for what you want… Legitimise your desires....

Part 1 - Discovering what you want. How do I know what I desire?! It’s so easy to become disconnected from your desires what with everyone telling you what you should and should not like when it comes to sex. Wrap this up with lots of shame and you have a recipe for a very unfulfilling sex life. Luckily I have a solution and it comes in the form of a very simple mindset shift. When I first learnt this it blew my mind (and transformed my sex life) and is now something I ask every,...