We often find ourselves burdened by the weight of responsibilities, expectations, and fears, striving to "keep it all together." But what happens when we allow ourselves to acknowledge that we might not be okay? What if we let go and trust that God is with us through it all? Letting go and trusting God is a journey that requires faith and intentionality. By acknowledging our limits, seeking God's presence, and taking care of our physical and emotional health, we can find the peace and...

God doesn’t tell us never to have emotions. However, when we choose to abide in our emotions and listen to them without reason, we learn the fruit of that is strife, jealousy, anger, and things like these as shared in Galatians. In this episode, I talk about how we move through our feelings so our emotions don’t control us. Navigating our emotions biblically and practically involves blending spiritual wisdom with tangible actions. This means taking time to honestly reflect on our feelings,...

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you desperately needed to take care of yourself, but the overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame held you back? This struggle is real, and many of us have experienced it. But why do we find it so hard to prioritize our well-being?  A healthy relationship with ourselves stems from a healthy relationship with God. What we believe about God we will believe about ourselves and then live as though we believe it.  In this episode, I discuss how...

Let me start by honoring the part of you that's fighting to be seen. God sees you and He knows. Not only does God know, but I also know this fight.  I pray that, however hidden you feel, you find comfort in knowing that other women are trying to “get loud” so they can be heard, too. In Hebrews, scripture reminds us that we are not hidden from God. He sees and knows us on an intimate level. But even when the world doesn’t see us, will the Father's seeing us be enough for us? Do we believe He...

“I’m just not good enough.” “I should have known better.” “I’m not worthy of forgiveness.” “I always mess things up.” “I’ll never be able to change.” Behind every one of those phrases, we find a piece of ourselves that feels like it should be punished. So, we impose self-punishment and call it "holy," but punishing ourselves is no way to live.  Let me ask you this - Do you believe you are forgiven? Fully forgiven, especially when you repent? In this episode, I walk through the steps of...

The topic in today's episode has been on my heart for a while because I've been reflecting on what my life might look like had I chosen to continue to make decisions that kept me headed down the same dark road much of my family has traveled. Maybe you can relate.  In this conversation, I pose 3 questions that can help you recognize where you have been participating in generational sin and how to break free. You don't have to be a statistic. It will not be easy but it can be done. I am living...

Every day, when our alarms go off and our eyes open, we begin making decisions. By the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow to do it all over again, we would have made an estimated 35,000 decisions. But we have to do it, right? The family needs to be fed, we need to go to work, and our friendships are important, so the question becomes how do we steward what God has entrusted to us without living overwhelmed by stress or filled with anxiety day in and day out. In this episode, I...

Your childhood, what you have done, what has been done to you, what people have said to you, what people haven’t told you - every one of these sentences when answered holds pieces about who you are; a moment in your life that tried to form you into another image other than your Father’s.   Those messages have tried to form this theme: “When you show up as who God has created you to be, you are too much and not enough all at the same time.” However, over the last couple of years, after letting...

I hear the pain in my coaching client's words when they say, “I feel like God is punishing me.” Many of the women who go through my programs and coaching one-to-one have been taught a view of God that is vengeful, full of wrath, and all punishment. They fear that when they don’t do something perfect God will punish them for it. If our theology of God isn’t based on His goodness, then when things happen that we didn’t expect or plan for, it’s easy to think God is punishing us. But God doesn’t...

"Where did that thought come from?" "Why do I think like this?" Have you ever asked yourself those questions?  In this episode, I break down how a thought pattern is formed, where we get influence for our thoughts, and offer 3 tips (plus 2 bonus ones) to build a foundation to start breaking through tormenting thought patterns.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way:...

I am very acquainted with this question - if God is good, why am I in so much pain? In this episode, I share my own story of abuse and striving. Through the years, it has been a process of renewing and redefining all the pain I have gone through with others. It’s also taken time to forgive myself for the pain I caused others and the choices I made. I had to fully receive what Jesus did for me so I could not hold myself to any other standard.  When I talk about coaching and counseling women,...

Sometimes we have to be willing to love people from a distance because love doesn’t require proximity, other times we commit to love closely. The depth at which we love will be the depth which we can experience pain.  I don't know exactly what happened in your damaged relationship, but in this episode I share 3 key factors anyone will need when rebuilding trust in any type of relationship.   Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your...

“I don’t know how to process through what I am feeling and struggle with anxiety daily,” a coaching client of mine told me. She continued, “I have been taught my entire life to deny myself, so how do I honor God but also honor who He made me?” Maybe, like my coaching client, you have felt the same way, a world where you need to get yourself together before you can go to God. In this episode, I walk through some scriptures about denying ourselves that are commonly misunderstood and explain...

A survivor struggles to bring together two irreconcilable realities - God and abuse. “If God is good then why did this not-so-good thing happen to me?” This is a question we ponder when the pain of what happened feels far from anything good. We can see a world where there is pain and suffering without God, but how do we live in a world with a good God AND pain and suffering?  That’s what we will be discussing in today’s episode. I want to open up the conversation around the question so many...

Anger is an emotion that hits hard, has some of the most intense reactions, and can be felt deeply in the body. It doesn’t matter if you are someone who feels their feelings, shoves down their feelings, or has difficulty communicating them; anger is unavoidable because we are humans living in a fallen world. That is not an excuse for anger but a fact. Anger is one of the most basic emotions we, as humans, feel and experience.  I aim to help you befriend the feeling of anger instead of...

With the fast pace of this world, it’s no wonder we are finding ourselves in a constant state of anxious feelings. We think to ourselves that we will deal with it later until later never comes, and we find ourselves lying awake at night trying to process everything all at once.  The good news is that the Bible offers wisdom and encouragement in dealing with these feelings. In this episode, I'm talking through a few techniques for overcoming stress and anxiety through both a biblical and...

Did you know by the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow to do it all over again tomorrow, we would have made an estimated 35,000 decisions? That’s a lot of decisions that can come with a lot of feelings - and not all of them are good. The fact is that our feelings are not going to go away. In this episode, I explain three differences when it comes to our feelings that we need to recognize so we can stop relying on our feelings.  Today, take the time to check in with yourself -...

I know how hard it is to forgive. I think the mistake that many have many over the years is by the phrase, “forgive and forget." First, we must understand there is no limit to which we are to forgive. We don’t get to decide who is worthy of forgiveness and who is not. Despite what they have done or may do, we are called to forgive those who hurt us. Forgiveness is not an emotion. In this episode, I walk you through what it looks like to forgive the hurts that are too hard to forget....

I know we don't often say that we need to reconcile with someone, but it is a topic that comes up frequently in my coaching. So if your heart is hurting because someone has hurt you and you're trying to figure out how to move forward with this relationship, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I walk through six stages of rebuilding trust. Some of the stages can take longer than others - some stages we may even need to repeat. However, continually showing someone through our...

Wouldn't life be easier if you could control the people in it? Unfortunately, it's not that simple. Relationships can be messy and difficult, so in this episode, I'm walking you through 5 ways you can handle those relationships through the lens of faith by seeing them through God's eyes, identifying stressors, and delaying our responses. I also share some biblical suggestions on how to improve the quality of your communication.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Free 3-Day Study Learn how to...

A proper relationship with yourself starts with a proper relationship with God. If you are always judging yourself by your performance, you will have a horrible relationship with yourself and live under guilt and condemnation.  The release of our condemnation doesn’t hinge on our ability to forgive ourselves; our freedom from the strongholds we carry comes through Jesus. We aren’t striving to be set free, we are renewing our minds to stay free. We can’t forgive ourselves, but we can show...

“I’ll never be good enough.” “I’m not worthy.” “I don’t deserve to be happy.” Do any of those phrases sound familiar? When we make a mistake it’s easy to miss conviction and move straight to condemnation, which creates a cycle of self-hatred. That is not what God wants for us.  In this episode, I explain the difference between condemnation and conviction, how to break free of the weight of feeling unworthy, and what it looks like to repent.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Free 3-Day...

As 2023 comes to a close, I want to take a moment and thank you so much for listening! This community continues to grow and I have some exciting things coming up in 2024 including a new membership community where you can feel safe and heard while talking through scripture together. I'll also be continuing my Spiritual Growth Mentorship and adding some counseling sessions to help you discover practical ways to take care of your emotional and mental health while never losing sight of God. Join...

Betrayal, whether it's from a family member, spouse, friend, or co-worker can be devastating. So, how do we find hope? In the new year, I am releasing a biblical study on rebuilding trust. In it, I talk about one of the key stages in rebuilding trust in finding security in God before finding security in people. However, in this episode, I walk through scripture that informs us of why forgiveness is the first step to finding hope after betrayal. Forgiveness is not an emotion, it's an act of...