The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024.  By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option) For more information and registration https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who? After...

Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all...

After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her...

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast

In this episode I will speak with 3 people that I have gotten to know very well over the last few years, they are all members of Strength Within. "Strength Within" is the support group that I run on facebook for those seeking understanding in your situation. The 3 guest today will be answering questions about how their lives would be different today if they had not gone through what they went through. These are some strong, determined, and now happy people who once did not feels as if they...

 I know that you are going through times of adversity in your life, the high demands of your relationship and just plain keeping life in balance often seems like more than you can handle. Today you will be listening to me speak with a guest who has also had her share of adversities. Fiji McAlpine, today's guest is a yoga virtuoso who turned personal adversity into a global movement. After a debilitating back injury at 21, Fiji discovered the transformative power of yoga. Not just a remedy for...

The “Just Enough” Relationship is a devistation that almost no one ever sees coming. The just enough relationship is one that gives you “just enough” to keep you invested in the relationship, but not enough for you to feel safe, accepted, or appreciated.We tend to lower our standards as we accept less and less from those who are giving “just enough”. Real effort is not given unless the relationship is threatened.One is giving the least amount they can get away with giving and the other gives...

We all know that divorce is hard. It is something that affects everyone who is in the lives of those who are separating. With so much going on many do not realize the impact these changes have on the children that are caught in the middle. Those going through an amicable divorce can usually navigate things well so the children adapt with everyone else, but for those who are going through a high conflict divorce the storyline is much different. As a family law attorney and GAL for the state of...

How many time have you gone back and forth between, "I should leave this relationship" and "maybe it's not that bad"? More than you care to remember I am sure. Making this decision is not easy, I know this because if it was easy, you would have already made it. If you are anything like me when I was in your position, then you are trying to make this difficult decision with only half of the information. You are the only one who can make this decision, but we don't realize it. Instead what we...

Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert. Over the last 30+ years, she has supported thousands of people to heal physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.She is fully dedicated to this mission because she believes that betrayal is one of the most painful experiences one could ever have. She knows because she has been there. It was her own betrayals, first from...

2023 is coming to an end. I can not believe another year has come and gone. This year was a years of... UGG.. learning, digging, admitting, understanding, & growth for me. I had an indescribable year. If there is an emotion out there... I had it! If there was a feeling...I felt it! If there was a doubt...I questioned it! If there was trust... I tested it! And if there was change...I resisted it! 2023 wore me slick out, but in the end, it was incredible. I NEEDED IT! Dr Heidi Instructions...

Are you going through yet another holiday season, that does not all resemble the one you once had pictured in your mind. When you have relationships in your life that are not healthy for you, where controlling behaviors are present, or where that has been betrayal the supposed "Peace on Earth" doesn't seem so peaceful. Rather than spreading your "Joy to the World" you would rather "Deck someone's Halls". How do we navigate this time of year while attempting to balance all our normal...

Today I was able to speak with fellow podcast hosts to get their perspective on the toxic relationship when there are narcissistic behaviors present. Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D, a mental health clinician, & Tara Blair Ball, a certified relationship coach, together are the hosts of the podcast "Breaking free from Narcissistic Abuse". The long term effects for those involved in toxic relationship are devastating. Those around you will not understand which will lead you to feel isolated to protect...

Masking our personality is something that we all struggle with. It is easy to want to cover up who we really are around people who may not like us, around those who make us feel unsafe, or around those who we are threatened by. We change who we are in certain environments so our vulnerable ares and weaknesses do not show. Why would we do this? To gain approval/acceptance of others - To avoid conflict - To lessen fear - To gain love - To make others happy. I am not pointing fingers at anyone...

Why is it that with the toxic relationship comes the art of minimization? To minimize is to take significant things, either good or bad, and lessen the importance or degree of them. In a nutshell minimizing makes the good things seem not so good and the bad seem not so bad. When we learn to minimize in a unhealthy relationship it allows us to avoid dealing with our emotions and our feelings. Do you minimize the things you should be celebrating? Are you minimizing abusive behavior? Learning...

Whether we like it or not transformations show up in our lives, sometimes at the most inconvenient times. We can fight them, but that will only make them last longer. The transformations in your life are there for a reason. We were not meant to stay the same person, we were meant to grow, to learn, to be our true self. With each transformation, even the painful ones, you will see that they are working for your good and for a place of higher peace in your life. To learn more about my mission...

Unhealthy relationships change us, rewire us, cause us to adapt in order to survive. Being in a longstanding toxic relationship changed my view of myself, my life, and the things that I deserved. I forgot that I was important too. I put all my energy in to making the relationship “feel” safe and in the end, I lost myself which doesn’t feel safe at all. We, as individuals have certain rights. You had them given to you the minute you were born, yet they seem to disappear when surviving each day...

I direct people daily to specific podcast episodes they need to hear according to the situation they are in right now. Last week I featured the top episode for those seeking validation. This week I would like to suggest some to those who have made the choice for themselves to leave a relationship but who now may be struggling with self doubt or guilt. If you are feeling alone and uncomfortable now when you thought you were ready… it’s ok, it is normal to feel this way for a while. The...

I talk to a lot of people in a week, and I find myself referring them to the podcast episodes that I feel resonate with what they are needing right NOW. For those who are seeking validation that it is not all your fault, that you are not crazy, that you have tried your best; for those who have just begun there journey of learning what an unhealthy relationship can look like, these are for you. The top 4 most recommended (by me) It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic episodes for those seeking validation....

Get a sneak peek into a live session in the We’re INNIT Together Membership Support Community. See how it works, see if you like it. I is an example of how the live sessions go. How we interact, and what you can expect when joining the online membership support group. If you think it would be a good fit for you register here and we will see you there! https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community?sfw=pass1683508208

Rejection is a part of life, we all have times when rejection of a job, a date, or a social circle for example that may set us back a bit but with time there is often growth from the experience. Living in an environment where rejection  happens frequently the feeling of unacceptance can overtake ones confidence and self worth.Being rejected cause a reaction to hang on tighter to whatever is rejecting us. The worry of losing someone or something is more powerful than accepting the fact that...

We all need the support of others whether we are in a toxic relationship, removing ourselves from a toxic relationship, or healing from a toxic relationship. This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you.

We soon figure out that the person from the beginning is not the person we now see in the relationship, that was because of love bombing. However, many are surprised at the behavior of thank you toxic personality when you are trying to exit. It seems strange, confusing, and sometimes hard to believe. I am here to tell you it is believable because it is normal for this to happen during the detachment from a toxic relationship. Listen again to what hoovering is, how it is used, and how to keep...