In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why is it that I can orgasm easily on my own (using my fingers or a vibrator) but have never had an orgasm with a partner? So many boyfriends have said, ‘Oh, but you’ve never had sex with ME!”, convinced they will be the one to make it happen. But it never does. I came close with my ex whose technique was excellent, but still couldn’t tip over the edge. 2) I am a guy in my early 40s. My partner of 20 years passed away two years ago and I’m thinking of entering the dating game. I’m a very hairy guy—chest and back hair, and a trimmed beard. My previous partner didn’t mind and said she liked it. Are there still women out there who like hairy men? Or is that not a thing anymore? I am happy to trim the hair—and I do—but I don’t want to wax or shave. How do I handle this on a date? Should I come right out and say I’m hairy before we have sex? Or should I try a more subtle approach?   3) I’d like your advice on whether I should separate from my husband or not. We’ve been together 12 years—the first half really happy, the second half not so much. We have a daughter who is 6 years old. Our main problem is we argue constantly about the same things without ever finding solutions. How to parent, money—all the usual things. Sex stopped when my daughter arrived and has never really kicked off since then. My husband feels like my adversary, not someone who loves me, and I dream of being free of the stress of fighting. I’m worn down. But I also have friends who regret leaving their marriages, so I don't want to jump ship if it’s going to be even worse as a single mother. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.