In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m in my 50s and have been with my husband for 20 years. We’ve reached a point where we have a good life together, but he’s not interested in sex anymore. I look after myself and have been getting attention from a couple of guys at my gym—one going as far as sexting messages which I've found extremely flattering, arousing, and exciting. Is it bad to continue enjoying this? While I know my husband would not approve, I’m getting a huge confidence boost and fun from it. 2) Is it bad if most of the sex you have doesn’t last very long? My wife and I have young kids and demanding jobs and try to make time for sex, but it’s not easy. We end up mostly having quickies. I don’t mind because I always climax, but how can we make them more satisfying for her? 3) I’ve just met someone I really like after 12 years of being single. Just one problem: his penis is too big for me. It’s not the length—it’s too wide. I can just about accommodate him side by side. Any tips on how to handle this? He said he’s had this problem with every person he’s been with.  To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.