Today my guest is  Treva Brandon Shcarf, a  life/dating/relationship coach, former fitness professional, midlife marriage first-timer, and author of the book Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love. This episode is all about the ways we hold ourselves back from experiencing both the love and life that we want  for our next chapter.   Treva shares that what works for life advice is also solid dating advice.  We chat about manifestation and law of attraction, knowing ourselves, how we get in our own way. We also share  the  dating disasters and mistakes that we have both personally made.  This is an honest, no holds barred conversation about finding the love and living the life you want for your next chapter.    -------- Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life/dating/relationship coach, fitness pro, and author of the new self-help memoir, “Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love.” With over 40 years in the fitness business, and many more in the singles world, Treva knows how to help people achieve their personal best in life and love. Treva blogs about surviving singledom and finding love later in life and contributes her brand of dating advice to many publications. She currently co-hosts the podcast “Done Being Single” with her husband Robby. Treva is an advocate for strong, independent women, a voice for empowered singles, and a champion for late bloomers everywhere. When she’s not delivering tough love to her clients and readers, Treva volunteers as a Special Olympics coach and a Fulfillment Fund mentor to at-risk kids. She is passionate about politics, policy, and people of all ages and abilities.   Free test-driven breakup tips at www.trevabrandonscharf.com