Many of us grew up in environments where we were not taught to express or manage our emotions. We learned how to stuff things down, put on a brave face and soldier on.  And for many of us, myself included it worked quite well …until it didn’t. The transition into midlife with all its changes and upheaval can have a way of bringing things to the surface. And that’s actually a good thing.   Today on the podcast my guest is Dr Patrick Kilcarr, a therapist of  20 yers who specializes in Emotional intelligence.  He is also the author of “Leading an Emotionally Intelligent Life.” In this episode we explore what emotional intelligence means,  how we learn it and the profound impact that it can have on both our personal and professional relationships.  We also delve into the consequences of suppressing emotions and it impacts on the journey of self-discovery and reinvention.  Some highlights of the conversation include: How emotional intelligence leads to personal and professional success. Why emotional intelligence requires self-awareness and understanding the root causes of our emotions. How we can choose our responses to emotions to empower oursleves to create positive change in our relationships and surrounding. ----------   Dr. Patrick Kilcarr has been a therapist for twenty years in the DC area, where he offers individual, couples, group and family therapy.  He specializes in Emotional Intelligence and emotional intelligence assessments, and focuses his research on the intersection of risk taking behavior and emotional intelligence. He is a master trainer for Multi-Health Systems Inc., the company that created the most widely used Emotional Intelligence instrument, the EQ-i2.0., which assesses and evaluates emotional competencies in a variety of professional venues.   Doctor Kilcarr is also the head of Georgetown University’s Center for Personal Development since 1999, and Adjunct Professor at Georgetown University’s School of Health Science, teaching interactive courses on personal development and emotional intelligence.  He has written extensively on emotional intelligence, addiction and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, where he co-authored an award winning book, “The Voices From Fatherhood:  Fathers, sons and ADHD.” He received his PhD in Developmental Psychology from Maryland College Park’s Institute of Child Study. https://theeilife.com/patrick-kilcarr/ Leading an Emotionally Intelligent life Many of us grew up in environments where we were not taught to express or manage our emotions. We learned how to stuff things down, put on a brave face and soldier on.  And for many of us, myself included it t worked quite well …until it didn’t. The transition into midlife with all its changes and upheaval can have a way of bringing things to the surface. And that’s actually a good thing.     Today on the podcast my  guest is Dr Patrick Kildare, a therapist of  20 yers who specializes in Emotional intelligence.  He is also the author of “Leading an Emotionally Intelligent Life.” In this episode we explore what emotional intelligence means,  how we learn it and the profound impact that it can have on both our personal and professional relationships.    We also delve into the consequences of suppressing emotions and the impact on the journey of self-discovery and reinvention.  Some highlights of the conversation include:   How emotional intelligence leads to personal and professional success. Why emotional intelligence requires self-awareness and understanding the root causes of our emotions. Choosing our responses to emotions empowers us to create positive change in our relationships and surroundings         Doctor Patrick Kilcarr has been a therapist for twenty years in the DC area, where he offers individual, couples, group and family therapy.  He specializes in Emotional Intelligence and emotional intelligence assessments, and focuses his research on the intersecti