“I am in the midst of a classic anxious-avoidant love challenge. After our first instance of sudden and unexpected avoidance I put two and two together and started realizing what was going on. Somehow I started getting retargeted by video shorts by dozens of so called relationship experts, all of whom warned that my only path to dealing with an avoidant was to cut bait and disappear on him. I spent 4 weeks in complete turmoil feeling the greatest and most desperate sense of loss and despair. I happened upon Stephanie Rigg’s podcast and systematically binge-listened to most of them over the course of 2 weeks, each one soothing my soul more than the last. Only when I came to the newest one and had a major epiphany that none of the other anxious-avoidant content had addressed: this was a human in pain, and in my despair I was placing all the blame on him and assuming his wrong doing was one sided, while also not being empathetic or compassionate. This was not me. My anxiety had completely hijacked my personality and my instincts. It took me 24 hours to reset myself after working hard to seek deep within myself, including downloading Stephanie’s self healing content and watching every bit of video I could find. In a moment of pure insight, I reached out and instead of assuming intent of my avoidant, I responded with pure and genuine empathy. I was still assuming the worst and that we were finished, but instead of anger or blame I showed compassion. This was as a direct result of resetting my understanding of the situation with a the breakthrough after I A) stopped listening to other content providers who simply demonized avoidants, and B) hearing Stephanie explain and guide. When I truly stopped my spinning and understood her — magic happened, and we came to understand each other at a different level. Still early days but things look promising. And more importantly, even if it does not progress well, I now have the tools to break away with grace and kindness versus allowing myself to be tormented and injured by my own anxiety. Thank you Stephanie.”
App is all sizzle no steak via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/24/24