Need a good laugh today? Everyone knows how stressful the holiday season can be, so if you need to lighten the mood or just chase away the cold weather blues, you’re in the right place.
We crowdsourced anonymous sex confessions from our Instagram audience, and cherry-picked the very best ones to share in this revealing, hilarious, and sometimes shocking episode. Get ready for outdoor sex hijinks, dating app mishaps, on-the-job orgies, the trouble with technology, and more mayhem involving...
Initiation is SUPPOSED to feel sexy and enticing. When we see it on TV, it always looks so easy. One partner looks at the other from across the room, you can see in their eyes how much they want each other, one partner presses the other up against the wall and it’s game on! But for so many of us, initiation feels more like an annoyance than a seduction. We polled our audience on Instagram and discovered that at least half of our audience regularly gets frustrated by their partner’s initiation...
There are few things in life we’re more passionate about than orgasms! We want you to understand them, have them, give them, and enjoy them! With so much misinformation out there, it can be tricky to separate fact from fiction. So we decided to create The Orgasm Episode, vulva owner edition!
We polled our Instagram audience for all the orgasm questions you want answered. We talk about everything from questions about clitoris size to squirting to wet dreams. Wanna know how to even identify an...
Do you want a higher sex drive? Bet you said, “yes!” without thinking twice. 74% of our Instagram audience did. Most of us feel self-conscious about how rarely we desire sex, and believe that we’re supposed to have a stronger libido.
But if you’re really honest with yourself, do you truly want more desire? Only 8% of our Instagram audience said they’d do whatever it takes to have a higher sex drive. And we’ve found that whenever we offer sex drive resources to our community, very few people...
You love your partner, for better or worse, but there’s just that THING that gets under your skin.
Maybe it’s something they say all the time, maybe it’s a bad habit that they refuse to address, or something bigger like house duties.
Whatever it is, you just can’t seem to “get over it” and you have found yourself wondering, “Am I being unreasonable?”
We reached out to our Instagram audience for their biggest pet peeves and frustrations, and damn did you guys have some good ones! In this...
You come home after a long day, you see your partner, but you don’t say anything more than “hi” to each other. Something hilarious happened at lunch, but you don’t see the point in sharing it with your partner. You sit down to dinner, but have nothing to say to one another.
You find yourself thinking, “How did this happen? Is this normal? This can’t be what a relationship is supposed to be like…”
Well guess what? Not only has 90% of our Instagram audience admitted to growing apart in a...
Have you ever had your partner initiate sex and thought to yourself, “I should probably just do it because I’ve said ‘no’ so much”? Or has your partner been the one reminding you of your track record of responses?
Or maybe you’re the one wishing your partner would say “yes” a whole lot more often.
Spoiler alert: You should never feel pressured (or pressure yourself) to do something you don’t want to do with your own body. But this issue can get surprisingly complex. Intimacy is one of the...
Have you ever been having intercourse and thought to yourself, “Oh, this hurts, and not in a good way…”?
Research shows that a whopping 1 in 3 vulva owners said this happened to them the LAST time that they had intercourse. But sexual pain is something that is rarely discussed, leaving so many to suffer in silence.
Nobody deserves to feel pain during sex. While the source can be complicated, sometimes a few simple tweaks can make all the difference. Let us walk you though what you may be...
You saw the question box. You dug deep and swung for the fences. Now buckle up, because it is our turn at bat and we are gonna get SPICY in this episode!
That’s right, it’s time for “Ask Us Anything”- extra spicy edition 🔥
On Instagram we asked you to challenge us with your most personal questions, and boy did you deliver! Our team gave us a list of questions, and we sat down to record without discussing any of our answers first.
We really go there, deep diving into our dating history,...
Most couples believe that trying to get pregnant will be one of the sexiest, most intimate periods of their relationship. But if you don’t get pregnant right away, things can quickly take a turn - worrying that something is wrong, fear that it will never happen, the medical appointments, the pressure, the schedules…
With all that stress, it’s no wonder that your sex life can really suffer while trying to conceive.
Today we’re sharing 5 ways to protect your relationship during your TTC...
Xander is back in the hot seat today answering the tough questions... What do guys REALLY think about lingerie? Can they handle a woman who makes more money or has a higher sex drive? When it comes to breasts, do they care about size or symmetry? Nipple size or color?
We also polled the men in our Instagram community so we could take an even deeper look at the male psyche.
And we even talk about the two topics that have caused some serious issues in our relationship.
Don’t miss the...
No, you’re not having deja vu… Butt Stuff is back!
We originally released a Butt Stuff episode almost a year ago, and it has consistently been one of our top 5 episodes. It has been so popular that we decided to turn it into a course… conveniently named Butt Stuff as well 🤣
In celebration, we decided to re-record a podcast episode with all of your most pressing questions. We cover everything in this episode! Hemorrhoids, hairy buttholes, safety, straight dudes being on the receiving end,...
Definition of hot take: a quickly produced, strongly worded, and often deliberately provocative or sensational opinion or reaction. You guys are always asking us for our “hot takes” on some of the most divisive sex topics like threesomes, strip clubs, pegging, 69, and even the age old spit vs swallow debate, so we decided to put them all together in one episode!
We’re getting real and holding nothing back as we dish on over a dozen hot topics that you sent in. (Spoiler alert: we don’t agree...
You’ve asked us over email, Instagram, YouTube, everything short of a carrier pigeon… How the heck did we get into the sex therapy business? And do we manage working and living together every day as a married couple? The time has come for us to share all the details about our business, from how we started to where we are now.
You’ll hear about it all… Vanessa floundering to figure out her path. Why we moved to Berlin. Xander’s identity crisis. Our most embarrassing moments, and plenty of...
Let’s talk about the thing that keeps you up at night. The thing that you don’t bring up over drinks with friends. The thing the that you don’t even admit to yourself if we are being honest.
Let’s talk about the shame surrounding sex.
Our Instagram audience tells us that 74% of us have experienced it in our lifetime, with 30% currently going through it. (But we’d bet real money that both of those numbers are much higher.) There are so many things that plague us when it comes to sex: body...
Are you worried you’ve lost the spark in your relationship? We asked our Instagram audience, and the numbers were shocking! A whopping 91% said their relationship has gone through a Roommates Phase, and 46% said they’re in one right now.
So why does it seem like no one is talking about the Roommates Phase?
In this episode we do a deep dive into what the Roommates Phase means, and how to get out of it before it’s too late. Let us help you end the drought and get back that lovin’ feelin’!
Do you ever find yourself feeling kinda… disappointed after intercourse with your partner?
Or worse, faking it just to “get it over with”?
Maybe you’ve tried talking to him about it and telling them you need more, but he got defensive and nothing changed.
This episode has been a long time coming! We hear SO many stories from our audience about how men just don’t prioritize female pleasure as much as they should.
There are a lot of reasons why there’s such a huge orgasm gap in male-female...
Are you sick of fighting about money in your relationship? Maybe you’ve even thought you and your partner are incompatible because of how differently you both think about spending and saving. Trust us, you’re not alone!
This episode is for you if you feel like you need to keep purchases a secret. Or maybe you’re just exasperated by how much money your partner spends. We know how easily that tension and resentment can build.
Today we’ll be addressing money issues within relationships advice...
Are you struggling to have a great sex life now that you’re a mom?
As women, we wear so many hats and have so many identities. We’re wives, girlfriends, daughters, sisters, friends, and mothers. But what happens when these identities feel like they’re in conflict with one another?
A whopping 91% of our Instagram followers said their sex life got harder after kids. We heard things like, “It’s hard to feel confident in my new body,” “Everyone always needs something, and I’m tired of giving,”...
You read all the books, listen to all the podcast episodes, and do all the meditations and affirmations. But your partner won’t even read a dang Instagram caption!
What do you do if you value self-improvement and personal development, but your partner just can’t be bothered - or even flat-out refuses?
In today’s episode, we’re giving you the tips and tools to get your partner invested in becoming the best version of themselves.
Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode60
In today’s episode we’re diving into something that 74% of our audience have never done - roleplay!
Most people think that roleplaying feels awkward and uncomfortable. They worry about not knowing who to roleplay, not being able to get or stay in character, and generally embarrassing themselves.
But we think that roleplaying can be a whole lot of fun - and can even be a great way to feel more present in the bedroom!
So in today’s episode, we’re going to give you our step-by-step roadmap...
Today’s episode is about one of the most underrated sex acts that you’re probably not doing… mutual masturbation!
Even if your face is already beet red, we’re going to do our best to convince you why masturbation isn’t something you should do alone or in secret.
Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode58
“Should I have to stop hanging out with my ex because my girlfriend said so?”
“Is it my husband’s job to say something to my rude in-laws?”
We’re answering these spicy questions and many more in today’s episode of Pillow Talks!
Most of us get annoyed by things our partner says or does — but is it their problem, or ours? Is it their responsibility to fix, or is it something we need to learn how to live with? Today we’re answering the question, “Is this your shit or mine?”
Check out the...
Every day we get DMs from women asking Xander what men REALLY think about everything from pubic hair to emotional intimacy.
We decided we had to devote an entire podcast episode to this topic, so we gathered your most common questions and concerns, and put Xander in the hot seat. We also asked the men in our Instagram audience for their feedback. We’re giving you an invaluable peek inside the hearts and minds of men all over the world.
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