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“My husband and I love the content of the podcast, but almost every episode there’s a weird moment where Vanessa belittles and/or talks over Xander that makes the both of us uncomfortable listening to it. Yes, she’s the expert and he’s the “regular guy,” but that’s exactly what makes his points...”Read full review »
Meg De Thaey via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
09/05/24
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“I’ve followed on instagram for a year but never made time to listen to the podcast. I didn’t know what I was missing! I love listening now. So many subjects, so easy to listen to. Very informative for me as a wife and a mother. Plus it keeps me entertained!”
Amanda Hill13 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
09/04/24
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“I’m a newish subscriber but now never miss an episode. I love how Vanessa and Xander approach all the s*x topics with such knowledge, experience and also humor. I love them!”
KTDubs74 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
09/04/24
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“Sensitive subjects presented in a sensitive and helpful way. I was looking forward to the next podcast. Thank you Vanessa and Xander.”
Colonel Bob oh via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
09/02/24
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“I found out about this podcast from Armchair Expert with Dax Shepherd and have been binging episodes ever since! I’ve been with my now-husband since we were seventeen (we’re actually celebrating ten years this week!) so we had to learn everything together and we’ve learned so much more from this...”Read full review »
ktbug4444 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/25/24
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“You don't need to hear again how much you improve other people's lives. Or do you? Anyway, other than the obvious, I also love your playfulness and especially when the jokes get too good for you to resist just laughing for real. It's a joy to hear and adds credibility to your own...”Read full review »
Shinobi Boa via Apple Podcasts ·
Poland ·
08/24/24
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“I heard about this pod from a Facebook group for one of my other favorite shows! Decided to give it a try and I haven’t had one regret at all. I typically listen to podcasts while I’m working and there’s some days I’ll listen for 8 solid hours. Many of your conversations/question topics have made...”Read full review »
km44km via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/23/24
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“The information in this podcast is great but there are way too many ads. It started off with an ad or two, but the last few podcasts there are four or more embedded in the show. Sure it’s a free podcast but I want to listen to the hosts, not be continually sold to. It’s especially jarring when...”Read full review »
CiarraiV via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
08/22/24
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“I’ve been married for 9 years and have been having various issues in my marriage lately. This podcast has really helped me to communicate better with my spouse. I especially needed the resentment episode. Listening to this has improved my mental health. Thank you for all of your help and advise.”
Jb3718 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/22/24
“I found this podcast and Sex Talks (haven’t read YET, but very excited to do so) after hearing an interview with Vanessa on another podcast. I realized how much my partner and I lacked confidence talking about sex which is… unfortunate. Since listening, we have really enjoyed learning and playing...”Read full review »
I heard on a podcast… via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/22/24
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“I found your Instagram first and loved your content as it was so relatable and honest. I introduced my husband to your insta account and then we started listening to your podcasts. My husband and I have a great relationship and we are so open to talking about it ALL - every aspect of...”Read full review »
Jakartajdjsjsjsjdjdjjdjd via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
08/19/24
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“I kind of stumbled across this podcast and have been scrolling through previous episodes anytime I have free time. As someone who was raised to have a lot of shame related to sex this podcast has made me feel so much better about talking about sex with my partner.”
trtidwell via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/16/24
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“Please don’t use my name if posting or mentioning this review.
This podcast is so entertaining and informative. I stumbled upon this podcast looking for anything related to marriages and relationships and I was so happy to find pillow talks! I have often found myself laughing along with the...”Read full review »
StrollerDad via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/14/24
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“I love this podcast and how it normalizes women getting pleasure too! How did our society get like this? I’m so sad it took too many years to learn my body and what I like. I first starting following Vanessa on IG (pre Vanessa and Xander!) a few years ago but recently have been binging Pillow...”Read full review »
BirchTreeFam via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/13/24
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“This podcast has been SO eyeopening and hilarious. Honestly, Vanessa and Xander make sex not a taboo topic and they make it what it should be! Fun! They answer the questions you don’t want to google, they help you feel normal about things that society will probably make you feel not normal about,...”Read full review »
blahhhh12356 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/08/24
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“This podcast is a great resource to support and grow your relationship, answers questions you can’t ask others, and on top of that - it’s super relatable! My husband and I both listen and it’s found its way into our discussions about sex and our relationship many times! I would definitely...”Read full review »
hannyja via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/02/24
“My husband and I love listening to this podcast together. It provides great conversation starters and has encouraged us to talk more about sex with each other and to try new things in bed. We really appreciate the great work Vanessa and Xander are doing!”
Portland Chicken Mama via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/02/24
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“Really like their practicality in intimacy and physical intimacy. My wife and I enjoy a good amount of “upside down pineapple” and so the perspective from outside the LS is really helpful. We listen to lots of pineapple podcasts from pineapple people. So of course their blind spots are the...”Read full review »
OnusHoosier via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/01/24
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“I have just started binging this podcast and I’m feeling so much better about things, such relatable, simple action steps and advice with examples and humor and such a place of love!
Thank you!!!!”
$&)8? via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/31/24
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“A person with experience is not at the mercy of a person with an opinion.”
ChadWSU via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/28/24
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“This show is fantastic! I’m a new therapist, and have only been in the field for a year. I’m super interested in couples work and have been delving into them, so having resources like these types of podcasts and books are SO helpful for better understanding the inner working of marriage/dating...”Read full review »
Jasmines9780 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/25/24
“Can't recommend V & X enough. I found them on IG just because someone I follow, liked their post and I am SO grateful. My husband and I have been struggling with our sex life since we got out of that "honeymoon phase" and not for a lack of enjoyment. We've been together since...”Read full review »
Jesssicanicolee via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/25/24
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“Imagine having two of your best friends that sit down and just pour out smart advice every-time you need it. Vanessa and Xander are hilarious while giving thoughtful advice that every couple can put into practice to better partners for each other. Putting the tools and tips into practice is...”Read full review »
JordamF27 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/23/24
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“The mental load episodes were so incredibly helpful because they were able to put into words what I was feeling but didn’t know how to explain to my husband. I had him listen to those and it has been life-changing for our relationship. I love how real and open Vanessa and Xander are and I am...”Read full review »
Bpreis09 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/22/24
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“I’d just like to start off by saying I’ve finally found a great, relatable podcast. I’ve been striving to reestablish the spark/connection with my wife. We’ve been together almost 20 years. Married for almost 14. I’ve been looking for a good podcast that I could relate to and share with my wife....”Read full review »
jdburdick84 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/22/24
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“I haphazardly came across the Pillow Talks podcast and gave it a listen about 3 months ago. I’ve been hooked ever since. I love the content and have learned so much from this great couple. They feel like friends that I haven’t met yet. I love how they take serious topics and break them down on...”Read full review »
Bomber art via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/20/24
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“Great podcast, nice to have two perspectives. Although, sometimes there’s a liberal bent to it and spend too much time acquiescing about not speaking for non-binary people, but then V speaking for women (but not speaking for all women), X speaking for men (but not all men) and the obligatory...”Read full review »
novice vois via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/19/24
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“I’m a new listener and I’m already totally obsessed with the show. You guys are honest, unfiltered and most of all, hilarious! I have been sharing the episodes (and wisdom!) with friends and family and everyone is as hooked as myself… and my partner! We now listen together and it’s our favourite...”Read full review »
Ksiazczyk via Apple Podcasts ·
Great Britain ·
07/18/24
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“I have been healing from a chronic illness for nearly 10 years, and as a result it has been difficult for me to experience physical pleasure, much less have the desire for sex. I also struggled with unaddressed sexual trauma and all of this really impacted my romantic relationship. Recently I’ve...”Read full review »
mds1500 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/18/24
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“I have followed Xander and Vanessa on Insta for a while and decided to give the podcast a shot. I fell in love from the first episode I found as I was scrolling. I listened to their episode about being child free and felt so connected to them. It felt so validating to hear their raw opinions and...”Read full review »
Loves2laugh87 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/17/24
“I found your Instagram a little while ago, and finally started listening to the podcast. Almost immediately I reached out to my spouse to have him start listening too. Our relationship isn’t bad, but it can always be better, and this is helping us be better. Thank you so much!”
robinsonjackie39 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/17/24
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““Pillow Talks” is my go-to for all things sex ed! Hosted by the fabulous Vanessa and Xander, every episode dives into juicy topics and serves up something new to learn.
The hosts are a blast—fun, smart, and super relatable. They make even the trickiest subjects feel like a breeze. Whether you’re...”Read full review »
Pod Picks via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/15/24
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“I recently discovered your podcast and added a few episodes to a playlist for a 14 hour road trip. Halfway through the first episode my friend pressed pause and said “I already have so many nuggets I’ve tucked away to talk about with [her partner]. We listened almost exclusively to you guys for...”Read full review »
cousinlizz via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/15/24
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“Great book, great podcast. Thanks for sharing professional and personal knowledge in a fun and easy format. Cute dogs too!”
Amor6146 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/13/24
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“Wish I had this education earlier!”
CamilleS123! via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/12/24
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“You guys! I left a 8 year relationship feeling not seen and my needs not met. I love learning all the new things from you and seeing that not only my partner war the bad guy but us both not being communicating the right way
Thank you for preparing me for future and healthier relationships. Loved...”Read full review »
Lerii21 via Apple Podcasts ·
Germany ·
07/12/24
“I’m in a long term relationship (14 years) and after two kids I’m looking to bring some love and excitement back into my relationship. Not only does this podcast give great advice and tips, I also use it to get my head in a sexy zone so I keep my mission in the forefront of my mind. This podcast...”Read full review »
wendlandcd via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/12/24
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“Thank you for sharing the content we all need, and all of the information we’re too shy to ask our friends.”
LMG0630 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/10/24
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“I have become addicted to this podcast! I find myself in so many situations referencing pillow talk and recommending people follow because it’s so relatable, relevant and they put into words so many of my feelings. They’re amazing!”
sleeky15 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/06/24
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“I’m a relatively new listener, but I love it and am enjoying the backlog of episodes. Vanessa and Xander are so real and authentic. Listening to Pillow Talks is like having conversations with your friends that you wouldn’t normally have with your friends. It’s like therapy, experimentation, and a...”Read full review »
Paul Carganilla via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/05/24
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“After 26 years of marriage, I stumbled across you guys. It has been a positive tool in our relationship, and continues to help us! Don’t stop, keep your foot on the gas!”
.451ACP via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/05/24
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“Such a wonderful podcast! I really enjoy the complicity between Vanessa and Xander, it makes me laugh at loud sometimes. I also love when they do polls on Instagram and share the stats, it makes me see things with a new perspective. Thank you for such a good podcast, it’s always a good starter...”Read full review »
anna.cfit via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
07/04/24
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“I started listening about 6 months ago when I was about 6 months post-partum. My hormones were in a whirlwind I had absolutely zero sex drive and it was really affecting my marriage. When I started listening my mind was opened to a world of things I never considered. V & Z knew more about me...”Read full review »
Tyehimbaswife via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
07/04/24
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“This has been my favourite podcast for some time now! Vanessa and Xander are so fun to listen to and at the same time they share great and practical tips for everyone. I often laugh listening this podcast but also learn a lot of new things! Such a great way to combine education & fun!”
Account176 via Apple Podcasts ·
Great Britain ·
07/02/24
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“To say Vanessa and Xander have helped me personally as well as my marriage isn’t enough. For one the energy they bring to each episode and topic never feels judged, never feels scary, and honestly it feels like talking to friends about said topic. It’s helped me cope with things I was working...”Read full review »
Whyisitalwaysyouthree via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
06/30/24
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“I’m an OBGYN nurse practitioner and I’m always looking for ways to help guide my patients with sexual health. Vanessa and Xander are a great resources. They educate while being entertaining and I recommend their podcast, IG and their book- Sex talks to all my patients! I’ve definitely benefited...”Read full review »
eoster via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
06/26/24
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“I listen to several marriage / relationship podcasts and this one is unique. I enjoy learning new suggestions from this podcast that enrich my marriage and sex life. And there are MANY great ideas here! I have been in recovery from alcoholism and substance abuse for a little over 3 years. My life...”Read full review »
JD Narvon via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
06/26/24
“It’s not easy! My husband also struggled with addiction in the past. So much stigma & bringing awareness to this gives hope for less stigma in the future. One day at a time! Stay strong & congrats on your sobriety journey.”
Jess147ga via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
06/25/24
“I can’t say enough good things about V & X. I look forward to listening to their podcast every week. They make me laugh in almost every episode and really deliver on the hard topics that make relationships difficult. You will learn something helpful in every episode even if you think it...”Read full review »
alilmermaid via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
06/25/24
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