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“This is in and of itself, By far and away, one of the best podcasts I’ve listened to. I’ve never been a great cook but after listening to this podcast I’ve really improved. My wife always said that my first 🥞 was good, but I still would love to get X&V’s recipe to compare. Even though the 🍲...”Read full review »
Just-a-regulardude via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
05/03/24
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“I’m a 52 year old man married for 24 years to my favorite person in the world. Unfortunately, we have struggled with sex and intimacy for more than 20 years. Life, family, busy careers, social media, and so many other things have negatively impacted our relationship. We both are harboring a lot...”Read full review »
Big Gest via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
05/02/24
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“My wife and I enjoy listening to episodes. Even if it isn’t pertinent to us it always spars fun conversations”
asdef2018 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
05/01/24
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“If you have not listened to pillow talks or followed V and X on IG YOU NEED TO. I look forward to every episode every week. I make a whole day of listening to the episode. Usually the day i clean my house. They are hilarious and have helped me in my 12 year relationship so much. I follow many...”Read full review »
Ashlyn Riley via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/30/24
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“Thank you! My wife and I have been married for almost 24 years and have eight kids. We've been separated for over two years now. We are separated largely because I had a 20 year porn addiction. And because of that porn addiction there was a lot of sexual abuse inflicted upon my wife from me. ...”Read full review »
J 'n L via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/30/24
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“My wife and I started listening to Pillow talks a few months ago and Vanessa and Xander provide such a fun, fresh perspective on all things sex and relationships. We’ve also completed a 30 day connection challenge from Vanessa and Xander in the past and are currently reading sex talks together....”Read full review »
_Andy123477 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/26/24
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“I started listening to pillow talks about 4 months ago. I didn’t think it would be useful to me because my husband and I’s sex life is great. Although it was great, I was really struggling in not feeling loved in the way I needed to be loved emotionally. I started to incorporate little tips you...”Read full review »
Amber JH via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/22/24
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“Just started listening about a week ago, and I’ve already listened to so many episodes. My new go to to listen to in the car. You guys really help me understand things better or learn new things!”
Katieee_g via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/20/24
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“Such a good podcast 🔥🔥 if you are considering listening, just do it!! Wish my wife and I found it sooner it took us years to learn to figure out some of the topics they tackle. Even though we weren’t having issues in our sex life and our conversation has always been open, it is WAY better now...”Read full review »
mattchamema via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/16/24
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“My husband and I have been in a major slump since some big life changes happened. I feel our marriage slowly being restored as we listen to these together. Some of the episodes have made us crack up laughing or had us pause episodes to talk about certain topics. Thank you for talking about the...”Read full review »
Joeamy2012 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/16/24
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“I am absolutely loving this show. I’ve enjoyed the content on social media for years but just started listening to the show a week before my vasectomy. Xander’s honesty made me feel way more comfortable before the procedure, but now I’m tuning in because the other episodes are the perfect blend...”Read full review »
Coachjb4364 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/14/24
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“I just discovered this podcast and so fare I like their approach and topics.”
Mslack1 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/13/24
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“I love the language used and the way information is presented and relayed, so informative, friendly, non intimidating, non shaming, just really good vibes from this podcast. I’m also reading the book ‘sex talks’ with my partner and I feel so seen! this book was exactly what I was needing! thanks...”Read full review »
agent nipps via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
04/04/24
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“You two have such a great way of making sex talks easy! The dynamic you give to us listeners is fantastic and I appreciate you “touching” on so many subjects!
I feel as a woman in her 40’s I am just finding out who I am sexually as it’s felt like we were really pushed/groomed by so many outside...”Read full review »
Feudgirl via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
04/02/24
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“I found this podcast six months or so ago and I have learned so much. The biggest thing for me is it helped me to understand I needed to communicate more with my spouse. This may should strange but I even shared the post-cast with my daughter who expressed some concerns in her relationship with...”Read full review »
Usins17 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/29/24
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“My husband and I have been together for 16 years & have 2 young children. Pillow Talks is a weekly conversation starter for us that always leads to us feeling more connected. It's been so great to open up the conversation around all things sex and relationships. We are more connected and...”Read full review »
mr056h via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/25/24
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“I just recently found this podcast and have found myself devouring every episode. As new parents my husband and I have been struggling with prioritizing us. With the guidance of Vanessa and Xander we’re able to start taking steps towards prioritizing our relationship again!”
CristinaP12 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/24/24
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“AHMAYYYYZING.
This podcast turned me into a podcast person. I started following on IG, got some guides, listened to the Sex Talks Audiobook 5 times and just couldn’t get enough so I started the podcast from the beginning. Vanessa’s laugh is so infectious (in a good way 🤪) and her and Xander’s...”Read full review »
GlitterGypsy54 via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
03/20/24
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“It’s always a happy day when a new episode of Pillow Talks is dropped on my feed! Vanessa being an experienced sex therapist and Xander a “regular dude” make for a perfect combination. They’re approachable, honest, and funny.
I’ve picked up so many great tips that I can share with my partner....”Read full review »
jb71517 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/17/24
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“I love this podcast and listen every week. I found Vanessa and Xander on Instagram a couple years ago and I've loved their content ever since. In the last month I have binged all the previous episodes and introduced my partner to it as well. Now we often have discussions about topics we would...”Read full review »
BEileen4 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/16/24
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“Great Insight, it’s opened up the door to better pillow talk and bedroom…”
Sheryl Lyn Fox via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
03/15/24
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“Listening to Vanessa and Xander share accurate information combined with their personal experiences helps to teach others how to enjoy their own bodies and the bodies of their partners. They validate a variety of experiences and help to normalize so many of the things that nobody wants to talk...”Read full review »
Mustcountdown33 via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
03/12/24
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“I’m finally finishing the pod episode about you two being child free. My husband and I are 30 and have felt sooo many of the things you both expressed in this episode. It really helped validate my feelings, thank you both so much. We are still unsure and don’t really know when or if we’ll “know,”...”Read full review »
CBlack2 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/11/24
“Vanessa and Xander make this taboo topic much more approachable and less awkward, and have made me more comfortable thinking and talking about sex. They have such funny banter, and I always take at least one thing (usually a lot more) away from each podcast.”
llivingzton via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/11/24
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“Newer listener & am loving every episode! My husband and I have a great marriage and sex life but am always looking to spice it up! Can’t wait for my next road trip with my husband to listen to an episode with him!!”
mrs.maxner via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/10/24
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“I’m so glad you went on armchair expert! My husband and I are using your podcast as conversation starters. We’ve been finding episodes we like, listening separately, and then discussing afterwards. It’s gives us a calm way to problem solve without being in the heat of the moment! We enjoy the...”Read full review »
Caffeinated Kellie via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/09/24
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“I first heard Vanessa on armchair expert and I was so intrigued by her approach I had to check this podcast out. The first one I listened to was “we tried your craziest sex tips” and nearly spit out my soup listening to Vanessa describe her experience with the 360 (if you know you know). I fell...”Read full review »
Bangarang!! via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/08/24
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“I love the advice from this couple. They normalize talking about sex in an honest way”
betterbooked via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/07/24
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“I heard Vanessa on We Can Do Hard Things, and immediately bought Sex Talks. Loved it! I started listening to the pod too and have found a lot of useful communication tips. 🎩 Have yall thought about creating an app with your content (podcasts, courses for purchase) on it? A free version with just...”Read full review »
ES-42-IA via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/06/24
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“I grew up in the Catholic Church during the height of purity culture in the early 2000s. Unfortunately, this created a ton of fear & anxiety around sex & relationships for me. I have been out of the church for nearly a decade, and I have finally decided at 33 that enough is enough. I’m...”Read full review »
eliseraney via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/06/24
“For years I’ve struggled with pain and feeling self conscious about my body and not knowing how it works. I’ve compensated by focussing on my partners pleasure. Since listening to your podcast I’ve had the confidence to start conversations about our intimate relationship and how we might be able...”Read full review »
thefamilyshow via Apple Podcasts ·
Australia ·
03/06/24
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“Vanessa and Xander discuss their topics from a very approachable perspective and cover many perspectives. They knock it out of the park every time. My husband, who is not a listener (I’m working on it) knows about everything I hear from Pillow Talks because I bring it up so much. This podcast...”Read full review »
Savey00032 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/04/24
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“My husband and I have been together for over 30 years and V&X have definitely improved both our sex lives and communication. We have 2 daughters 21 and 23 and have shared your podcast with them and given them your book. They were tentative at first thinking there is no way they could...”Read full review »
KatKat269 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/02/24
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“Podcast Episode #143 was a decent listen but I feel like the subject of body confidence (or lack there of) and how it impacts your partner’s attractiveness and how it correlates with sex was a huge missed opportunity. For example, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and I’ve gained...”Read full review »
EJD1987 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/01/24
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“I followed Vanessa and Xander on IG for years before listening to their podcast and I wish I had started earlier. I’ve made my way sorting through the episode list and listening to ones with topics that I’ve been curious on but never wanted in my google search history and ones that I thought...”Read full review »
activityjunkie via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/01/24
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“I recently stumbled on this podcast through another podcast that I listen to. It came at such a perfect time in life. I have begun a new relationship with a very robust sex life. That is very different from my previous very long term relationship and has been hard to balance and make sense of....”Read full review »
Concerned789 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
03/01/24
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“Enjoying listening to what these two have to share. Always something to take away from the cast that I can use. Appreciate the hard work from you both!”
chris f / ee via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/29/24
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“I love this show so much! A much needed realistic look into relationships, sex lives and so much more.”
Seaflygirl via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/28/24
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“I came across this podcast a few years back because an instagram influencer I followed recommended them. This was the first ever podcast I listened to, and I was never interested in podcasts, until this one! I also have always been a Samsung user, but now that I finally have an Apple device, I...”Read full review »
Farrahdactyl via Apple Podcasts ·
New Zealand ·
02/27/24
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“I found Vanessa on girls gotta eat podcast
Her and Xander are absolutely wonder together
I’m 47 years old woman who had no sex ed besides 6 th grade health class same for my husband
After 25 years of marriage you both have given us the tools and words to turn around 180 degrees our sex...”Read full review »
shafferjennifer via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/25/24
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“My wife and I starting listening a year ago, after “graduating” from sex therapy. We get as much, if not more, from Vanessa and Xander, as we got from in person therapy. The topics are always great, but we get the most from listening to two people that we respect, talking frankly about their...”Read full review »
WhatwouldJerryDo via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/24/24
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“This episode was amazing. I’m 61 and on my second chapter. I was raised in an era when all women were supposed to look like Twiggy (anyone remember her?). My friends all talk about their weight and feel comfortable commenting on mine - especially when I’ve lost a few pounds to support that idea...”Read full review »
mcgmickey22 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/24/24
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“Love all of their work! They are vulnerable and relatable and Vanessa is the first person who helped me with any questions I’ve had about sexuality. I am now a pelvic health PT and refer so many of my patients to tune in, read the book, follow on Instagram. Quality content!!!”
Mollsbals via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/23/24
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“Wife and I have a great line of communication but this podcast has done nothing but improve us. Whether relationship or bedroom advice, it has helped us to come closer together while increasing intimacy in the bedroom. If you like this podcast, you need to read their book, Sex Talks, and complete...”Read full review »
superman steve downie via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/22/24
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“I recently found your podcast and have been bingeing episodes. And I bought the “Sweet or Spicy” program for Valentine's Day to share with my husband of 20 years. When we did the first Connection Challenge, the question was [SPOILER ALERT] “what is a recent thing I did that made you feel...”Read full review »
Mcqker via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/20/24
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“These two are great!! Such helpful and real advice!”
Jrich0912 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/16/24
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“Listened to Vanessa on Armchair podcast and was very intrigued by the information she shared. Have now listened to several Pillow Talks episodes and has greatly increased my confidence in the bedroom to ask for what I want. This has lead to open conversations with my husband of 15 years and more...”Read full review »
Rises on Catholic guilt via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/16/24
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“Vanessa and Xander’s podcast offers great advice about sex, but also offers great advice about relationships in general! Would recommend!”
@MandaPanda via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/15/24
“As a queer, disabled person in a queer relationship, I’m generally very hesitant to explore sex & sex ed podcasts. So often, they feel like they are clearly not made for me; like I’m invading a conversation that I shouldn’t even want to be a part of. I first heard about this show thanks to...”Read full review »
lolashley34 via Apple Podcasts ·
Canada ·
02/15/24
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“I stumbled across this podcast after V was on Armchair expert and now pillow talks is one of the only podcasts that I listen to! V and X are both super fun and really bring a new perspective to everything they talk about. On a AITA episode my initial reaction to each situation was that the other...”Read full review »
JoJo Dub's MaMa Dub via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/15/24
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