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Australian nikki via Apple Podcasts · Australia · 12/05/22
I stumbled across this podcast about a year ago and have listened to almost every episode. I look forward to Thursdays and listening to new topics! Although I haven’t purchased any guides, I’ve definitely taken their advice about communicating with my partner more openly and it’s been a great...Read full review »
EveryDangNicknameAlreadyUsed via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 12/04/22
I absolutely love this podcast! I listen to it every day while I’m at work. I started listening to this podcast because my partner and I were struggling with mismatch sex drive/desire. I have learned SO MUCH and it has opened up my mind to so many things. I have began to talk to my partner about...Read full review »
jsnsbsjsjnshshsbd via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 12/02/22
My husband and I were on the brink of divorce, and therapy thankfully brought us back. We had some trouble getting back into the swing of things in the bedroom initially, but then we found your podcast! It’s been such a great supplement to our ongoing therapy sessions, and now we’re having the...Read full review »
sono22222 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 12/01/22
My therapist recommended this to me for some concerns I have about my relationship - specifically this episode about letting your partner love your body and the episode about sex life after motherhood. The motherhood episode was good but there were a lot of things that seemed glossed over and...Read full review »
VanessaMomAnon via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/30/22
Thanks Vanessa and Xander for your episodes on sex drive mismatch, desire types, initiation and more (episodes 73, 76, 78 were so helpful!). I was about to turn to the masses on reddit for advice, when I remembered “oh, what about that cute instagram couple I followed a while ago?” I love the...Read full review »
Jelly..Bean via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/30/22
My dirty little secret is I listen over my headphones at work. After 26 years of marriage, I still don’t know everything about relationships and love learning from your insights. I love the genuine chemistry between you both and the light nature of the deep topics you discuss. Keep laughing...Read full review »
stampjv76 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/30/22
Omg this podcast is seriously like couples therapy!! I listen to a lot of sex podcasts, but they tend to be super “raunchy” and my bf gets embarrassed when he listened to them with me. I decided to put this on one day when we were painting the house and he was so open to it! It got us talking and...Read full review »
kncccc666 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/29/22
Just discovered this podcast and I already love it! Super entertaining and valuable information. PS, Vanessa’s laugh is contagious and cute.
gabbsgirl via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/29/22
I found this show from someone I follow and I instantly fell in love with it! I’ve even gotten my boyfriend hooked on it. It’s been a great way to navigate conversations in our relationship and put to words to what we’re experiencing. I love hearing the two different view points from Vanessa and...Read full review »
Mknottr2 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/28/22
Single gal here! 🙋🏼‍♀️ Found Vanessa through the healthier together podcast and have been following her and Xander ever since! Their mission is to help couples but as a single person I am still thoroughly enjoying and learning so much. My next partner is going to be a very lucky dude and I will...Read full review »
Jalyson28 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/25/22
Hi Vanessa and Xander, You’ve helped me navigate my first relationship in such a substantial way. I’ve applied tips you’ve shared regarding effective communication, exploring my sexuality, and being open and receptive to my partner in the bedroom. 🍆🥝 I’m 19, second year uni student, and hence...Read full review »
theStudiousOwl🥝🤩 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/24/22
Highly recommend this for good, factual information on sex & relationships.
KShap11 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/21/22
My husband and I have been together for 16years. We started dating as teenagers who have now created our own family. Having been together through so many different seasons of life, Pillow talks has given us the space and tools to communicate like we never have before. My husband started listening...Read full review »
FamousCupcake via Apple Podcasts · Australia · 11/21/22
A must listen every week!!
shelllllllllyyyyyyy via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/19/22
Since listening we have learned so much as a couple and have definitely tried a few things! 🍑I really appreciate how Vanessa and Xander take the time to create detailed information! I have never laughed so hard at a podcast before, Vanessa’s laugh is beyond contagious!
buckn'doe via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 11/18/22
Vanessa and Xander always make me laugh! I have learned so much not only about my own relationship but about my patients as a pelvic floor physical therapist. They have so much knowledge and deliver it in such a fun and easy way for people. Highly recommend for everyone to listen to, that as an...Read full review »
Sclark888 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/14/22
When people are at the end of their ropes, divorce imminent, depressed because their lives are falling apart , they are hopeful and desperate to get help from your podcasts but they’re merely commercials. I have two babies and my husband said if it weren’t for them he’d divorce me because there’s...Read full review »
Karla K GA via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/14/22
I can’t say enough how much I love this podcast. I laugh so much when I listen because you can tell how much fun Vanessa and Xander are having just joking with each other. It’s also extremely impactful and I’ve cried listening on more than one occasion because of how vulnerable they get it makes...Read full review »
rosethepodcastlistener via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/13/22
Both entertaining and informative! Love you two!!
heyitsme123* via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/11/22
This podcast is amazing. First off I feel like I’m listening to/ getting advice from friends because Vanessa and Xander are so personable and funny. But not only is it fun, it’s also good information. After 7 years of marriage I’m starting to feel more comfortable talking to my husband about...Read full review »
Heather927462 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/11/22
I genuinely look forward to every Thursday when new episodes are released - Vanessa and Xander are like my wise friends who are open and willing to share real experiences that have helped me so much! I used to be more concerned about sharing this kind of stuff, or that it would offput my partner...Read full review »
Vannerzzz via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/08/22
A ✅📜📯🐶 here. Finding this podcast has been one of the best things to happen to our marriage. Vanessa and Xander have normalized being open and intimate with each other. Our marriage is stronger for it and our sex life is 🔥🌶️ 🍭🤤. Highly recommend it to all the guys out there.
Torigen via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/06/22
I love Pillow Talks so much! it’s wildly informative and gives great tips and tricks to improve my life and relationship while being absolutely hilarious. They’ve tackled some tough subjects like owning your own feelings and handling rejection, and i appreciate that they don’t shy away from that...Read full review »
rey_lenae via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/06/22
Just discovered this and I’m really enjoying the honesty, and humanness in Xander and Vanessa’s approach. It is not intimidating, and very easy to digest and want to try on a different kind of confidence and ownership of my own sex life. Glad I found you guys! Looking forward to trying some of...Read full review »
cathvan via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/03/22
Love this podcast! A must listen for anyone wanting a great relationship w themselves and a partner! Growing up in purity culture I was shamed about talking about sex and Vanessa & Xander have helped me overcome many struggles as well give practical tips for growing a strong, healthy...Read full review »
Trezzz123 via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 11/02/22
I love the chemistry between V + X, they make it feel like such a light topic, and have so much fun together that it makes a typically tough subject easy to digest. They give such solid advice, and can help literally anyone, in any stage of their relationship (or solo journey if that’s you)....Read full review »
itsliindsey via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/28/22
This is one of my new favorite podcasts. As a couples therapist, I really appreciate the valuable, grounded advice they give to the listeners. As a person, I really just love to laugh and learn new stuff about sex. Thanks, Vanessa and Xander!
abby lmft via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/27/22
No matter where you are in your life you need to listen to this podcast. These two amazing humans have brought so much to my relationship with myself and partner. I’m learning so much about my wants and needs in and out the bedroom. I was brought up believing your virginity was for your husband...Read full review »
roxy1234 via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 10/24/22
I have enjoyed listening to these podcasts and I would recommend this to anyone who has sex and relationship questions. These weekly sessions have made me think and feel more comfortable in my own skin sexually and how to handle situations in my relationship.
SLL_CPA via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/21/22
Xander and Vanessa are so fun to listen to. This is a super helpful and enjoyable podcast. You won’t be disappointed in spending time listening!
RolltideCarlson via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/20/22
Vanessa and Xander are the real deal. I’ve come from a tormented view of sex and sexuality and just from opening my mind and being willing to listen to this podcast, I’ve been able to breakdown many of my struggles with sex. They are open and honest and give the most inspiring advice for every...Read full review »
Livv Orr via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/16/22
Love, love, love your podcast! I just found it recently and can’t get enough. I’ve been working my way through past episodes and of course listening to the newest episodes as they come out. While I love all of your content, the 👶🏻 free episode really spoke to me. It’s refreshing to hear another...Read full review »
bln890 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/14/22
I have been listening to Vanessa and Xander on my own for a couple months now. Recently, my husband and I went on a road trip by ourselves with no kids and then one of those moments of well. What are we gonna talk about? I said, would you wanna listen to this podcast with me. Not only did he...Read full review »
offroadmom via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/14/22
This is time well spent! This is the first podcast I’ve listened to ever 😳 and I have been missing out! I have loved following their content on Instagram *and at the same time* 😉I have to say the podcast has given me the best and most actionable advice. Vanessa + Xander have turned me into a...Read full review »
sienna.clary via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/11/22
Vanessa and Xander, I spent my teens and most of my young adult life feeling shameful because I lacked any sexual knowledge, but also to embarrassed to ask questions (due to family and society’s influences🙄) Then I started listening to your podcast and my world turned upside down🤯 I now have...Read full review »
Gjhchhv via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/07/22
I am so glad I found this podcast! This has enabled my Husband and I to open up to each other communication wise even more than we have before. We are learning so much and are taking a great sex life to even greater heights! 😏😋🥰😘🥳
twoo04 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/07/22
This podcast is my fave to listen to when I do weekly housework to make the mundane seem more fun 😜 Vanessa & Xander have opened my mind to learned stereotypes I had around sex & I’m constantly learning. I’ve never felt more confident in the bedroom or inspired try new things ....Read full review »
trapqueenlova69 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/07/22
Hello beautiful people!!! You guys are changing my life one day at a time! I am 3 months postpartum with my second child and started listening to you guys while I was pregnant. I had little to no sex drive while I was pregnant but listening to you guys gave me great ideas and topics to talk...Read full review »
KenzieOrr via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/06/22
So much fun to listen to, I laugh every episode! Even if you think you and your partner have a great sex life and communication there’s always room to make it better! What we found is also having a sense of confirmation we handling things right in certain situations was pretty cool and a “yay...Read full review »
tyunext via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/05/22
5 ⭐️s! I found Vanessa and Xander through the Herself podcast and started following them on instagram (great page to follow btw). I followed them for months 🗓🗓🗓 and participated in various podcast research polls 🗳. One day I thought, ⚠️ wait, why am I not listening to this podcast?? I am now...Read full review »
AshMc2208 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/05/22
Dear Vanessa and Xander, New listener here by about 2 months (although I have binged most of your episodes at this point on Spotify)! I wanted to tell you that I was brought to tears by listening to both your “Purity Culture” and “Why We’re Childfree” episodes. These subjects are very personal...Read full review »
leeshmeetsworld via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 10/03/22
So much warmth, humor, honesty, and practical tips. Thank you!
Jules0414 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/30/22
Thank you so much for helping me normalize these topics & making me feel more at ease with myself, & hopefully helping me improve my relationship ultimately!
Mel A.L. via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/29/22
If a “sex podcast” intimidates you PUSH through and give pillow talk a try! This podcast has undeniably helpful information for intimacy, growth and maneuvering relationship barriers. I cannot tell you the mind- blowing 🤯 moment Vanessa and Xanders podcast about mental loads had on my husband and...Read full review »
sara.joy.here via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/29/22
I’m so happy I found this podcast! I’ve always been a highly sexual person and thought I needed to be having 🤯 sex with my partner to be happy. I entered into a serious relationship at the beginning of the year that started with a first date of 🤯 all night (weekend) sex. Well, since then it’s...Read full review »
SYF531 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/26/22
I seriously can’t thank you guys enough. All of the free content you offer through this podcast and your Instagram have made our sex life 1000x better. I have listened to countless episodes and loved them all, not just for the fantastic information but also for the humor you two bring! Your...Read full review »
abalai7 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/26/22
Vanessa and Xander, thanks for all you do. My husband and I have been together for 12 years, married for 5 and we’ve been stuck in the roommates phase for over a year. This has left me feeling quite resentful a lot of the time. I found your podcast just a few days ago and have been binging your...Read full review »
JRmamabee via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/26/22
After listening to the episode which focused on mental load, I had a planned out discussion about it with my husband. I was ready for him to be defensive, suggest putting more responsibility on our kids, or just shut down. Thanks to all of your advice, he wasn’t defensive at all and went into...Read full review »
Lyndley Marie via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/24/22
I have been following Vanessa and Xander for close to a year now and have finally listened to every one of their published podcasts so, I figured now would be a good time to leave a review. Every episode is jammed packed with basic easy to use tools you can start using right away to improve your...Read full review »
Ash got cash via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/22/22
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