A major hurdle that many of us moms to rest is the underlying belief that we need to 'earn our rest'. In this episode, Professional Counsellor and mom of three unpacks how this belief impacts our abilities to rest well, our relationships and our coping habits.      This episode is in follow-up to Episode 194. I stopped calling myself a lazy mom  In this episode, we discuss topics such as: * relaxation vs pseudo-rest, burnout * opportunity costs, and how we insert ourselves into the equation * 188. Motherhood & Instagram Culture (how online communities impact your motherhood experience) * 189. Prioritizing the day: if everything matters nothing matters and how to apply this in motherhood * the cultural views on motherhood, being lazy, and earning rest * how we apply the logic of 'earning rest', seeking external validation, martyrdom * 67. Making motherhood harder than it needs to be (Mom Martyr) * 192. Who are you when I’m not looking (internal vs external validation) * the escape hatch, dealing with our feelings * 185. Emotional needs in motherhood (what they are and how to meet them) * 142. What will change cost you? (Paying the status quo or investing in change) * Show up for your life * getting the cycle backwards between rest and hard work * the Instagram post you all loved about rest * the cycle of hyper-productivity then crashing * meeting your needs * the series is right here  Join the Simple Saturdays newsletter right here    FULL TRANSCRIPT 0:00 Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the simple and purpose podcast. 0:17 So if you're new here, welcome. I am Shawna, I am a mom of three kids in Canada, I am a counselor. And my aim is to equip you with tools and ideas and insights that help you live more simply and more intentionally, in all the areas of your life. 0:31