The Drink Archetypes are eight unconscious patterns that influence why you drink. On this episode, we’ll do a deep dive into The Upgrade archetype and why it can make saying no tricky.  The Upgrade archetype comes from the idea that certain things are better with a drink. Wine elevates the meal. Get-togethers feel more special with alcohol. Even watching the sunset is better with a drink.    But associating alcohol with enjoying “the finer things in life” has its downsides. Take alcohol...

Even when you have lots of good reasons to cut back or stop drinking, most people eventually go back to their old ways. Why? Because people drink for reasons that aren’t always easy to see. That’s why I created The Drink Archetypes. These eight unconscious patterns influence why you drink and reach for another. Knowing the archetypes that apply to you will give you a blueprint to follow to create lasting change.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/358

You’ve been there. A no good, very bad day occurs and, seemingly out of nowhere, a voice in your head urges you to pour a drink. Yet you don’t abide.  You might be surprised by the ease at which you respond to such a moment of temptation. But then again, you know that developing a lasting change to your drinking requires an understanding of what that drink truly represents. This week, you’ll hear a story about how not accepting the false narrative that breaking the habit is a life-long...

You might believe that the end of the year is a difficult time to change your drinking habit. In reality, this period of temptation can actually supercharge your ability to retrain your brain. This week, you will learn how to address that lacking feeling you experience before pouring a drink and the questions you need to ask yourself to ultimately do the work of changing your brain.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/356

If you reach for a drink when you get home from work, there’s a good chance you were experiencing some type of negative emotion during the day. However, it could have been so subtle you didn’t even know it was there. By bringing awareness to these subtle emotions throughout the day, you can decrease the urge you feel to drink.   In this episode, I’m sharing how to work on the skill of “being where you are” so you can notice the subtle emotions that lead you to pouring a drink at the end of...

When everyone around you is drinking, the fear of missing out can make social situations especially hard to navigate.   Luckily, this episode explores some strategies you can go to instead of pouring a drink. You'll hear some insights on your lower brain when it comes to your desire to drink, and how to stick to your commitments.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/354

If you had a drink after deciding you were taking a break, you might have the thought that “it doesn’t matter.” This is an extremely common thought to have when you’re struggling to stick with your commitment to change your habit.   This week, learn how the excuse of “it doesn’t matter” is getting in the way of changing your habit, and how to keep taking strides towards improving your relationship with drinking.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/353

Free drinks are everywhere. Whether you’re at an open-bar event, there are bottomless mimosas at brunch, or they’re offering a glass of bubbly in the airport lounge, it is incredibly common to encounter free drinks. This can make saying no to those drinks extra difficult.   This week, learn how to keep working towards changing your relationship with drinking regardless of the free drinks available to you.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/352

Even when you aren’t experiencing the urge to drink, you can still have a lot of fear around urges. You might think that the urge to drink is so powerful that you won’t he able to say no.   This week, discover how to move through any urge you have including the urge to pour a drink. You’ll learn how to create a new relationship with the desire to drink so you can identify this desire without fear.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/351

When you feel compelled to drink, the act of drinking isn’t very enjoyable. It can feel like you’re “giving in” or are out of control. However, it is possible for drinking to be a pleasurable experience and not leave you feeling guilty or undisciplined.  The key is changing what your goal around drinking is, and that’s what you’ll hear all about in this week’s episode.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/350

When all you want is a glass of wine, a cold beer, or a cocktail, water can feel boring. No matter how you dress it up, it can leave you feeling resentful, disinterested, and wanting an alcoholic drink. This week, learn why water is not the problem, and how to use a glass of water to reveal what is really driving your habit and relationship with drinking.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/349

Do celebrations like birthdays and anniversaries feel more special with a drink in hand? Do you think that cooking dinner or watching a sunset can be even better with a drink? This week, learn how to teach your brain that toasting with a drink isn’t the only way to make a situation feel special and how to recalibrate your reward center to seek pleasure from other sources.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/348

When you get in the habit of relying on a drink or overeating to make you feel better, your brain can get confused and start to see alcohol and food as friends.   This week, learn why alcohol and food aren’t your friends, the exact reason your brain tricks you into believing they are, and 5 important qualities you need to examine in your relationship with alcohol and food.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/347

It can feel impossible to be in social situations without a drink, but spending years, if not decades, relying on a drink to get you through these situations could be making it harder for you to stop. This week, learn why we have this ingrained pattern with drinking when meeting new people, and why continuing to drink in these situations is not the solution to alleviating your anxiety around them.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/346

Do you worry that you will never be able to change your relationship with alcohol? Do you question how you’re going to drink less and figure it all out? If so, you are not alone.   This week, discover a simple tactic to help you explore your feelings of fear and shame, create awareness around your habits, and transform your doubt into something more useful.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/345

If you find yourself continuing to give in to the urge to drink, even though you know it’s not great for you, you’re not alone. Focusing solely on the impact of drinking when it comes to your health only tells one piece of the story.   This week, learn the problem with focusing only on the health risks of drinking and discover another way to change your relationship with alcohol.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/344

For many of us, pouring a glass of wine or opening a beer at the end of a long or stressful day is the easiest way to unwind.   This week, learn why the thought that it is easier to drink is keeping you stuck in the cycle of overdrinking, and use this knowledge to create long-lasting change in your drinking habit.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/343

When trying to change your relationship with alcohol, subtle comments like “Oh, you’re having another?” or “You sure like your wine!” can feel embarrassing and painful. But you can leverage these moments and use them to your advantage.   This week, learn how to deal with other people’s subtle comments about your drinking and use them to create real change in your habit.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/342

Making excuses doesn’t mean it’s impossible for you to change. When you learn how to leverage these excuses, you are able to discover what is happening beneath the surface and start acting differently.   This week, learn how to identify the desires beneath your habits and leverage your excuses to discover a path toward drinking differently.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/341

When an event in your external environment doesn't make sense, the brain invents a reason to explain it. It leads you to place yourself into a binary label of good, or bad; able or unable. It prevents you from connecting with your truth.   This week, learn what is actually holding you back from making a change and the key to transforming your relationship with alcohol.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/340

A champagne flute on a special occasion, a delicate martini with friends, or a classic wine glass that you enjoy, the shapes of glassware can be fun and exciting. But it can feel a lot less exciting to drink a mocktail from a soda glass.    This week, learn how to leverage the think, feel, act cycle when it comes to glassware, and understand the connection between the glass you drink from and your drinking habit.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/339

Saying no to drinking can seem impossible when your friends gather at the winery, and your family events involve beer in the backyard. But creating a list of why you can’t succeed isn’t helping. This week, learn why desire, justifying, judgment and social norms are tangled in your ability to say no peacefully. Discover methods to understand your negative emotions and how they can help you shift your habits.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/338

Desire cannot be tamed by shame or logical reasoning. No matter how much you shame yourself into change, it will only work temporarily.  This week, learn why managing your desire is so difficult and emotional and discover methods for understanding the process of desire within your body.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/337

Preparing for failure is an essential aspect of creating change in your drinking. You will not want to simply say “no” every night. This is natural and should be expected. Having tools and tactics to get you through moments when you don’t want to do the work makes a big difference when it comes to changing your relationship with drinking.  This week, learn how words and willingness can help you to reframe your experiences of disappointment and restlessness as they come up. Discover the...

Drinking is linked to our day-to-day life in so many different ways, from daily routines and productivity to physical and emotional health and relationships. When you change your relationship to drinking, many other things can change, and it all starts with one simple exercise. This week, learn how to identify compelling reasons to change your relationship with alcohol and why identifying these reasons is essential in creating lasting change.   Get full show notes and more information...