This is the final part of our series of presentations by Benjamin Lundquist to the Young Adults at our church here in Southern California. In this episode, he wraps up the ideas presented in the previous episodes and reminds listeners that their life is a part of God’s grand story. Benjamin encourages each of us to embrace discomfort and step into the unknown, knowing that we are not the heroes of the story, but that we all have a unique role to play in shining the spotlight on...

This is part four of our five-part series sharing some presentations by Benjamin Lundquist to the Young Adults at our church here in Southern California. In this episode, Benjamin helps listeners work through the difficult question of what one should do with their life, exploring the intersection of one’s calling and career. He identifies the two callings that are placed on each of us and then uses the Biblical story of Nehemiah to illustrate the importance of following God’s calling and...

This is part three of our five-part series sharing some presentations by Benjamin Lundquist to the Young Adults at our church here in Southern California. In this episode, Benjamin continues where we left him last week, giving us a five-step process for bringing about significant personal and relational growth in your own life. He explores the importance of casting a new vision for your life and building a system of habits to support the vision. His practical steps will help you make progress...

This is part two of our five-part series sharing some presentations by Benjamin Lundquist to the Young Adults at our church here in Southern California. In this episode, Benjamin explains that leading oneself well is not about trying to achieve value, but recognising that we are already valuable. It involves stewarding different aspects of our lives, such as finances, relationships, opportunities, and even our inner-most thoughts. He shares three practical take-aways and five self-assessment...

This is part one of a short series sharing some presentations by Benjamin Lundquist. In this episode, Benjamin shares his thoughts on the power of knowing one’s true identity. He talks about how easy it is for people to forget who they are because of what others have spoken over their lives and emphasizes that there is only one person who has the right to name us, determine our worth and value, and give us our identity. And that is God. He encourages listeners to claim their identity and...

We can’t believe that Christmas is just around the corner and that the year is almost over. In this short bonus update, Karl and Filip sat down for a look back at the last 8 episodes and a quick look ahead into our plans for 2022 and where we’re headed. We’d love to hear about your favourite episodes and how they have got you thinking over the last few months, so please message us on Instagram @choosetooverflow or drop us an email at [email protected]. Watch this...

Carson Blair, a former player for the Boston Red Sox, navigated many awkward locker room conversations about why he was saving himself for marriage. He had no way of knowing that his future wife, Angela, was also navigating similar conversations on a dating show! Now happily married, Carson and Angela describe their journeys towards purity despite the pressure from today’s culture. They discuss myths about sex with Karl and Filip, and highlight how grace factors in to purity as a...

When it comes to the engagement season, most of us probably think about planning “the big day” but it’s important to be preparing for marriage, not just a wedding celebration. On this episode we’re back with our friends, Jo and Laia, recent newlyweds. Karl has a conversation with them to discover the process they took in preparing for the beginning of their marriage. They share some myths and mindsets they had to overcome, conversations to have and questions to ask, and healthy ways to feel...

Sometimes Christians focus only on sexual boundaries in dating, while neglecting the many other types of boundaries. Our guests this week, Jo Amaya and Laia Burgos-Amaya, newlyweds, discuss the learning curve they both had with boundaries and share some of the ones they have implemented to keep each other safe. We also talk about “pressing reset”, healing, and forgiving ourselves when it comes to boundary violations. Resources Mentioned The following resource was mentioned during this...

As much as we hate it, every relationship has conflict. For this episode, Karl and Filip are joined by Communication Professor, Dr Heather Thompson Day to discuss how to handle those “crucial conversations” that inevitably come up in romantic relationships. She shares practical ways to prepare your mindset before going into a difficult conversation along with some ways to keep communication open while you’re in the thick of things. Heather also shared some stories behind her book, It’s Not...

When it comes to singleness, it can feel like there is a lot out of our control. But according to Erin Keegan, you can still work towards marriage when you’re single! She explains the types of habits she cultivated when she was single that empowered her to be a healthy potential spouse. She also walks Karl and Filip through the boundaries that she and her (brand new!) husband put in place while they were dating—boundaries that protected their hearts and sparked creativity during their dating...

In a world where divorce seems rampant, it’s no shock that some people are hesitant to tie the knot. However, Ranela Kaligithi, a therapist-in-training, joins us again for another conversation to share why she thinks marriage is still a worthwhile commitment. We explore some key things to look for in a romantic partner as well as some red flags, dealbreakers, and other dating and marriage hot topics. Resources Mentioned The following resources were mentioned during this episode. Please...

In this episode, Karl and Filip are joined by the wise and friendly Ranela Kaligithi, a therapist-in-training, for a conversation on authenticity and self-awareness in relationships. She shares how to own your own mess, recognize the values that shape you, and cultivate a strong sense of self. The discussion highlights how these skills help you build relationships based on who you are rather than always playing the part of the people-pleaser. Resources Mentioned The following resources...

We’re back with an all new season and our first guest is a psychiatrist! Dr Torben Bergland joins us for this episode as we ask all sorts of questions about Attachment Theory, its impacts on our romantic relationships, and also how it impacts our relationship with God. Besides studying the four attachment styles, we learn which types typically end up in relationships together, and the challenges that can present. We examine whether or not attachment styles are “problems” that need “fixing”,...

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