“Blame is a clever trickster. At its root, blame is a form of fear that helps us avoid accountability for our lives.”  -- Debbie Ford Can’t help but wonder why someone refuses to accept doing something wrong, even something small?  When blaming a person or system, your assigning responsibility for a fault or a wrong. However, feelings of fear or embarrassment can cause someone to go on the defensive and try to blameshift. It takes personal growth and development to determine why people act...

Ever wonder how you can become more productive? You schedule your tasks every day and try to balance your time but fall short of your goals.  There are three things that entrepreneurs know to help be more productive from understanding cycles to the impact of task-shifting. Entrepreneurs are a unique type of leader, they have learned when to shift between roles and the ways that they can be more productive in their work without sacrificing their mental health.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● The base of a triggered reaction ● The conflict loop ● The animal brain ● The 4 types of non-trauma based triggered reactions ● The content trigger ● Personality tests ● The big trigger times ● Responding to what is not being said

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● What is Emotional Intelligence ● Who a leader is (and isn’t) ● What it takes to be a leader ● What a heightened emotional state is ● Different types of support ● Personal development ● Challenges that women face ● The importance of having a squad ● The Difficult Happens Squad Membership ● Triggered “Seasons”

When starting out, you can be caught up in the excitement of the job or dynamic and excuse behaviors while in the moment. A little thing here, a little thing there, it is easy to miss all these little signs. But hindsight is 20/20 and eventually, you’ll see the writing on the wall. Now it is becoming more important to recognize dysfunctional and toxic behaviors in the workplace.  Jenn Trepeck of “A Salad With A Side Of Fries” joins us to talk about working in an environment that turned toxic

Why would anyone work in a toxic environment?  A toxic workplace doesn’t crop up out of anywhere, it is created, moment by moment and action by action. Every day there are news stories about bosses and bad behavior and environments that became unbearable. Have you ever wondered how these environments became so toxic and why people stay?  As it turns out, it is a slippery slope. Some fields and environments can become stressful over time and others are inherently stressful fields. 

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: • What manipulation looks like • How toxicity grows • What personal development has to do with it • What is self-esteem • How to frow self-esteem • Micro-boundary breaches • The strength of boundaries • What every toxic workplace has in common

To be an impactful leader you need more than just good management techniques, you need good people skills. Being aware of what motivates, encourages, fosters, and grows a productive team is something that is learned in the trenches of interaction - where leaders are born. • Non-profit culture • Young leadership • Building consensus • Succession planning • Growing teams in stressful fields • Firing employees • Hiring staff • How to respond to “I have boots older than you”

Like the old adage goes 'the definition of a dysfunctional family is more than one person". When you work with a team of people the dynamics are a lot like that of a family, individuals can fall into patterns of behavior that impact the whole team.  What you'll hear: • What is systems theory • Small team dynamics • Small business owners • Why conflict-types are unique • Button pushers • 3 secrets turn into 5 (bonus!) • What appreciation has to do with it

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: • What is a practice • How a routine becomes a habit • Patterns that humans crave • The productivity myth • What time of day does a practice work for you • When a bad habit creeps into your schedule • Tag me on Instagram with your practice

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: • Micro-boundary breaches on your time • How small steps can make a huge impact • 3 steps to better boundaries • How your boundaries are impacted • Where overwhelm comes from • The number one struggle people have • Magical thinking • Productivity as a small business • Entrepreneurial struggles • Triggers that get in your way • Balance in the real world

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: • Year in review • We’ve been through some things • When you normalize abnormal behavior • Embracing change • Intentional reflection • Some Gramma tiny’isms • How reflection leads to growth • The forest through the trees • Everything in moderation (including moderation)

Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● Why boundaries are so hard to hold ● How you are impacted ● The games a Jerk may play ● The dance manipulators use ● What is an extinction ● What is a behavioral burst and what does it look like ● Free at last ● Hold yourself accountable, and hold yourself in Grace

• What is Magical Speaking • How words are used to ‘gaslight’ someone • What to do when someone is talking in circles • How manipulators obfuscate the truth • What to do when anger is used against you • Examples of magical speaking in real life • 6 tactics manipulators use, along with words, to control your reactions • What self-love has to do with it • Why you should ignore the ‘implied’ and speak to the words instead • The emotional toll of manipulation • How your

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How you are impacted by others’ actions The difference between fault and responsibility What your reactions mean How you can ‘turn your mind’ about hard things How taking responsibility empowers you What the four agreements are  How  to use  the four agreements Time frames for moving on, yours and other peoples

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The disappointment you are responsible for When someone’s disappointment is all about them How expectations impact disappointment How to determine your responsibility What to do with all the feels Emotions and manipulation Your body’s reaction

What changes have you experienced this year? We are in a time ⏳of (that dreaded phrase) unprecedented change, some changes have led to greater awareness, some changes we will be happy to see the back of. In this episode, we take a look at the changes 2020 has gifted us & how to have gratitude in hard times. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Take the good and leave the bad, Unwelcome change, Change and adaptation, Welcome change, Gratitude Embracing an attitude of gratitude

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● Trusting your gut ● What I have learned from my miscellaneous regrettable decisions ● Trust your gut ● Not saying yes, and not saying no ● What is regret ● Why you should look back at those embarrassing moments ● How the martyr works ● Graceful detachment ● Redirecting behavior ● The power of what you can control ● The verbal processor ● What to say ● How we react ● The conflict triangle, triangulation

www.difficulthappens.com What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why someone pushes your buttons What your inner state has to do with it How a dysfunctional childhood influences adult behavior The scale of irritation The motive for pushing your buttons How to calm down How to respond to an irritating person When to not respond

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● What is toxic positivity ● What is positive psychology ● What is the difference ● When motivation goes wrong ● How manipulators use positivity ● Too much of a good think ● Platitudes and attitudes ● Ignorance & gaslighting

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How anger manifests What is unintegrated anger Healthy anger The purpose of anger When anger is a mask emotion Emotional desire paths The enneagram Movement & trauma Trauma & anger Fear & anger

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● What happens when what your experiencing is too much ● How we react to trauma ● What is resilience ● How do you thrive in tough times ● How can a code lavender help ● What is a code lavender ● How it can apply to your home life ● When the turmoil is internal ● Building strong teams

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: ● What is a trigger ● The four most common types of triggered reactions ● The seed of truth ● How this relates to communication ● Dysfunctional and functional responses ● Emotional triggered reactions (small t trigger) ● The words you say, and those you don’t ● What you are talking about and why its important ● Where you are at and how that plays in ● What to do about it