Common ways we have learned to interact with feelings that make it harder to quit a porn habit. The difference between avoiding, resisting, and reacting to emotions. What it means to allow and process a feeling (a skill required to sustainably quit pornography). How to start identifying some of your less helpful patterns around feeling your feelings/urges. Some questions to help you start identifying your learned patterns. Sample thoughts that are helpful to think while feeling your...

Did you know people hire Danny for General Life Coaching? Not just for quitting pornography? Bruce is a high-achieving, successful, powerful guy in many ways, but was feeling disempowered when it came to relationships, creating space for himself, having boundaries, and saying “no” to loved ones. He shares some of his journey to becoming more empowered in his approach to relationships.  He now does it in a way that allows him to feel free and to live life on his terms AND benefit those he...

Instead of the typical self-judgment many guys use when interacting with one of their urges for viewing porn, try this more neutral approach. A concept called "sexual relevance." Also, a real client example of someone learning to interact with their urges in a more empowering way. A way that actually allows for change and retraining his brain to not want porn. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life...

Ben, who is single and an entrepreneur, shares with us how he went from: -a porn habit-some hangups about his past-shame-fear-lack of confidenceTO Total self-control with PornHealing his pastReleasing shame and fearConfidence in all aspects of his lifeMaking life so good that porn becomes irrelevantOur hope is that Ben's story will inspire you to set your sights high, and never give up on your goals that you believe, or hope, are possible for you. Helping you to create an authentic drive to...

Danny's pissed today. But it's a Love-Anger. He's glad to be angry about this. Stop slowing your success with this limiting belief. Stop creating unnecessary suffering for yourself. A more efficient way. You deserve better. More ease with success is allowed. Listen to the full episode now! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to...

In this episode, Danny discusses common pitfalls guys run into with the way they are directing their willpower energy when it comes to quitting a porn habit. He covers topics such as: -over-reliance on external locus of control -inefficient uses of willpower energy when focusing on your internal locus of control -willpower is a limited resource -if not all toward fighting directly against the urges/cravings, where to direct your willpower energy And he even gives you a strategy you can start...

In this episode, Danny interviews past client, Justin Mathews. Justin shares how he went from "stuck" every day to living life porn free and totally in control. It hasn't only helped him leave a porn habit behind, but has transformed him in other areas of his life as well. Even his friends and family have said, "there's something different about you." Listen to the full episode now! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it)...

In this episode your host Danny shares a client win in his chain breaker program as well as methods and lessons he's learned and used to move forward from being results driven, to process driven for a more sustainable path to healing and growth. Listen to the full episode now! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who...

In this episode, host Danny Poelman talks about absolute expectations and letting go of the How Hungry mentality. He talks about the benefits of finding a system that works for you when trying to reach and goal, and staying committed to the process instead of the outcome. Listen to the full episode to learn more.  Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He...

In this episode, Lindsay Poelman, life coach that focuses on trauma informed coaching methods, dealing with pornography from a woman's perspective, feminism for Christians, and Danny's wife talks about her story and perspective of learning and growing from Danny's porn use. She talks about self advocacy, understanding accountability, and most importantly, showing up for yourself and your partner with grace. Listen to the full episode to learn more and share with someone you think may...

In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares wins, successes, and lessons learned from his clients, along with methods and strategies to find the best path of healing for you. He also talks about the need to slow down to move forward and speed up the healing process and what that means and is required from you.  Listen to the full episode now. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or...

You are worth not giving up on. I hope that this story about the impossible inspires you to do the impossible things.  Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives. Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoaching Ready to...

In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares 3 inspiring real life stories of guys you might be able to relate to who felt stuck and were looking for ways to empower themselves or change their habits.  His discusses honesty, vulnerability, how to consciously choose, why it's important to prioritizing your health and well being, and dispel shame about pornography. It's ok to be not ok and knowing that you are enough is one of the key pillars in growth and and healing. This is something many...

In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his group coaching calls with his clients. He celebrates the wins, shares the difficulties that came up, and proves that companionship in your growth journey can be a powerful tool for change.  Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want...

In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his coaching calls with his clients. He discusses the importance of committing with freedom, with choice, without fear. He talks about the importance of recognizing why it is you feel bad when you watch porn and how to work around those negative emotions. Listen to the full episode to learn more.  Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy...

In this episode your host Danny Poelman, talks about the lessons he's learned from his new dog about quitting porn and fighting urges. When we are first learning to quit porn, or anything really, like unhealthy food habits, or alcohol, etc. we give in to our urges. It is our lower brain that pushes us to follow through with those urges. We need to be better about activating our upper brain and being in control of those urges. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a...

In this episode, your host Danny Poelman discusses the importance of decision making and why deciding when you will make a commitment is imperative to the success of your journey. The brain uses up a lot of energy just thinking about what decision it needs to make, and by pondering on your commitment to change for too long you may fatigue your brain. Listen to the full episode to learn more about why making a commitment to yourself in a timely manner is helpful to your overall journey and...

In this episode, your host Danny Poelman talks about the chain breaker process, his new group coaching program, and how that has helped the people who joined. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives. Check out Danny's...

In this episode Danny Poelman shares lessons learned from his client Ben, and the successes he has experienced. It's an episode to celebrate wins and to show that coaching really does work. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and...

In this episode, Danny Poelman talks about the feelings and thoughts we may experience after watching porn during our healing journey. He breaks down myths about progress being linear, gives actionable advice to continue sustainable progress, and how to adjust your thoughts and confidence during this time. Listen to the full episode to hear Danny break these concepts down even further and help you get on the road to sustainable habit change. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and...

Habit change is a process that is refined over time. It is literally the consistent work that is put into the process of changing habits that yield results. In this episode, your host Danny Poelman breaks down the Triangle Offense to Habit Change. The 3 pillars of this process are: 1) Love and accept yourself 2) Feel your feelings without reacting to them 3) Commitment to your purpose Listen to the full episode to hear Danny break these concepts down even further and help you get on the...

You are not alone.  If you feel stuck in your journey to quit porn, or like nothing you do is working, I want this episode to serve as inspiration that things can change and be better. That there are ways to work on your growth and healing that are sustainable and productive. That you're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. That you are here as you're meant to be.  Listen to the full episode to learn more Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at...

Are you people pleasing? Do you find yourself giving in to your urges too much? Are you afraid of the consequences of your "no's"? It's perfectly normal. When we are on the journey of healing, one of the hardest things to practice is enforcing our boundaries. In this episode Danny Poelman talks about the importance of enforcing boundaries and how to get out of the unhealthy habit of people pleasing. Listen to the full episode to learn more Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps...

In this episode Danny Poelman discusses joy and how that can be an excellent way to create change and success. By thinking of the things we need to do in joyful ways, it'll create a shift in the ways that change happens. Listen to the full episode to learn more Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling...

Are you asking yourself the right questions? In this episode, Danny Poelman goes through the questions he has had to ask himself to facilitate change is his mindset, habits, and life. He offers the questions that can be helpful for thought work and accountability as well as questions to define the 'why' in your journey. Listen to the full episode to learn more Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life...