Boundaries get confused with care and crossing boundaries - cruel behavior, manipulation followed Random acts kindness … it makes you feel crazy Thankful to Paul to map it out Very helpful
patricia micaela bessa via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/15/24
So, I have a question, could you explain the reasons with people that are narcissistic and emotionally abusive why the other spouse changing themselves doesn’t make or encourage the abusing/narcissistic spouse want to change? There doesn’t seem to be many people talking about it. I’ve been...Read full review »
britstew via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/12/24
Thank you for such useful tools to define and identify emotions along with beginning steps on how to handle such difficulties.
Momma Juana via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/02/24
Thank you for all of the useful content you put out, it has been extremely transformation and life changing for me. This podcast helped me learn what it looks like to truly love and respect yourself and other people you care about. Thank you.
mundy255 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 11/07/23
Listening to Paul be so raw and honest about his healing from being the toxic person in a relationship feels like a breath of fresh air. Not only am I able to look at more at the areas that I could still improve but it makes me feel heard in what I experienced in my own toxic relationships. A...Read full review »
Legsmac via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/15/23
I JUST found this new podcast! So excited to listen! Thank GOD for Paul Colaianni ! He’s pioneering this much needed area , so much hidden abuse with few who ‘get it’ ... His first podcast the Overwhelmed Brain kept me sane and he literally helped me realize I should and could escape with my...Read full review »
DarraeH via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/08/23
You got me through the other side of an abuseive relationship your podcast helped so much thank you
Satyagrahamahadevi via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 08/28/23
This podcast is truly helping me through a tough time.
Rebekah in NOLA via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 08/27/23
Hi, thanks for the great information. It was enlightening. I just wanted to know when you suggested to take a break before ending a relationship, Does that mean that partners should discuss the reasons behind this break and be honest with each other about the probable outcomes or does that mean...Read full review »
samaeb via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 05/18/23
thank you getting me through such a tough time and teaching me to stay away from what hurts
Loladolaaaa via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 04/28/23
I searched all over for a podcast on abuse after leaving my abuser. There isn’t much out there that isn’t self-promoting in terms of mandatory workshops, etc. This isn’t one of those podcasts. This podcast delves deep into abuse and the various aspects of abuse (physical, verbal, financial). The...Read full review »
_ashhhh_ via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 04/01/23
This podcast has helped me so much. I went through a very painful divorce and I’m still in a lot of emotional turmoil about it. There was much verbal emotional abuse. It just feels so good to listen to all of these episodes confirming that I do not need to stick around for insults, chronic...Read full review »
Marla Martenson via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/19/23
I have appreciated the insight Paul has provided. What has truly helped me the most is that both perspectives are provided. That of the abuser and of the abused. I have learned so much about myself. I so much appreciate how Paul is able to give such insight into how to guage a relationship’s...Read full review »
luvharmony via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/18/23
Thank you so much for giving me the strength and validation I have needed to hear.
DJE0614 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/11/23
This podcast helped me understand toxic and emotionally abusive relationships and played a huge role in getting out of my toxic marriage. It was a lifesaver!
Bushyuppie via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 02/07/23
Without your podcast I wouldn’t understand mixed toxic emotions from an abuser! I listen & comprehend my self in so many different aspects. Thank you for your words and genuine knowledge 😇🥰🥺 This podcast is literally better then Therapy! Xoxo; thank you.
Gloriia87 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/01/23
This is the best pod cast that I have ever listened to. I am currently in a emotionally abusive relationship. As has every relationship I have been in before this. I have seen and spoken to therapists, and have been diagnosed with PTSD due to my former abusive partners. Sometimes I feel so...Read full review »
Amanda Belew via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 12/29/22
This is an astoundingly good, relatable & excellently compiled podcast. Paul provides a safe platform for solo soul searching & truly awakens inspiration to tackle your own issues and recognize what belongs to others. Great podcast! Give it a listen, you won’t regret it.
sonoran siren via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 12/09/22
For the past three years, I’ve been in an abusive relationship with a person who suffers from addiction and comes from a chauvinistic culture. I have a tendency to be overly compassionate to the point I end up desperately trying to understand the other persons feelings while neglecting my own....Read full review »
Aross0505 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 09/01/22
This is the best thing I have ever come across! When your in the middle of the tornado, sometimes you think your crazy and can’t articulate your feelings. This podcast has helped me so much and I can’t ever recommend it enough!! His voice is smoothing and just what I needed. Thank you Thank you...Read full review »
Nikki-Remake via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 08/22/22
This podcast was what finally gave me the ability to understand exactly what was happening to me in my toxic relationship with an extremely manipulative narcissist, to explain what I was experiencing to other people, and to finally get out of the emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive...Read full review »
Steph__F via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 08/07/22
I love this podcast. I am 24 and in my first serious relationship. Listening on a regular basis keeps me aware of how I and my SO show up in our relationship. Both of us were raised by emotional abusive parents which makes it very easy to let those behaviors slide. Listening to this podcast helps...Read full review »
thisishardbskicbwks via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 05/31/22
Wow. I have been separated from my husband for three years and have read and listened to all kinds of things to help make sense of what happened and what continues to happen (we have two children together). All of my reading helped, but this was the missing piece. I now understand much better how...Read full review »
JennyK645 via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 05/23/22
After listening for 30 minutes I just couldn’t listen any more. I wondered if this guy, who I am sure has something to offer, had any kind of professional training in counseling - couldn’t find any info that he does. The advice felt so wishy washy and he contradicted himself so often. He also...Read full review »
kleclair101 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 03/02/22
Really appreciate this podcast. I am learning so much about myself and my partner and how we come to the relationship. Thank you
Tootoon00 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/15/22
I have been listening to Paul for a while now. I am in an abusive relationship and His own personal experience provides some very sound advice or a point of view from someone who WAS an abuser. I highly HIGHLY recommend listening to his podcast. I am so grateful to have come across his podcast by...Read full review »
nuggabug via Apple Podcasts · Australia · 02/07/22
The good: the host is very good at describing things in a way that authenticate both perspectives without demonizing those who may fall into “toxic” behaviors. Things that are suggested to be done instead are usually helpful and insightful. The best episodes are the 18-25 minute ones. The bad:...Read full review »
kreebby via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/03/22
Paul is an unsung hero and has helped me exponentially in my personal and professional life. Thank you Paul !
kellols via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 02/01/22
Is there a way to request transcripts of shows!
Nurse_Erin via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 01/14/22
I just came across your podcast this morning, and by 5 at night I’ve had to have listened to over 10 of them. Not only is this podcast informative and calming, but it is outright inspirational and reminds us that humanity, at its core, is good. This podcast is so wholesome, when the world is in...Read full review »
ikkin4321 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 01/11/22
I am working my way through your episodes from the beginning after a friend told me about your podcast. I was skeptical at first, as I am with all resources on abuse because there are so many bad ones out there, but so much of what you say has validated my experience of abuse. When I got to #19...Read full review »
Evacharles via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 08/28/21
In all my life I have never heard an individual so clearly, efficiently and capably address all of the most salient and continually inexplicable challenges in all human relationships…With a degree in psychology, and years of life experience under my belt, it perplexes me how I could’ve gotten...Read full review »
Lisdreizen via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 08/19/21
Everything about this podcast is AWESOME. I love the fact you have life experience not just a voice narrating the subject. Thank you!!
tanm70 via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 08/05/21
Please keep doing what you are doing Paul!!! Thank you!!!!!
MR And Tye Fan via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 07/31/21
I just reviewed your podcast from June 3, 2020. It was very good, as are all your podcasts, and sometimes we need to hear your words over and over until they sink in. Bottom line is, if someone is showing you who they really are, you need to except that, honor yourself and not live for months and...Read full review »
kwiaka20 via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 07/28/21
you have truly opened my eyes to my situation that i am currently going through and it’s helped me learn how to approach him in a healthier way. thank you so much paul you have really helped me a lot.
Mayatyre02 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 07/18/21
Your podcast has saved me many late nights and early morning; when I felt like I was barely holding it together and so alone. Your voice is very calming and consistent, which helps calm my anxieties when dealing with narcissist and confirm what I think is true. I have listened to every episode...Read full review »
vickynonis via Apple Podcasts · Canada · 07/16/21
Paul I love you so much you’ve helped me a lot and I just don’t know how to thank you enough <3 :)
moonnaz via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 06/23/21
I’m really grateful to have found this podcast, as well as the Overwhelmed Brain. Paul is honest and it’s good to hear someone that talks about how they changed and what helped them change. He doesn’t pretend to be perfect. He acknowledges his past flaws. It’s very insightful.
Guy Zipp via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 06/08/21
I’ve been listening to Love and Abuse and as well as the Overwhelmed Brain for a couple months now. I love Paul’s style and his capability of hitting home on so many levels of emotional abuse on both sides. He gives you straight easily retainable verbiage to use within your own relationships...Read full review »
Former flat squirrel via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 06/02/21
Paul has a soothing, calming voice and the content is very useful and unbiased. Highly recommend this podcast .
Jinna B 123 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 05/20/21
Paul, has a soothing voice and covers a tough topic with wisdom and caring. Thanks for making this podcast. If you are experiencing abuse or think you may being abuse then this is the show for you. Also, this show will help you avoid abusive relationships. A+
Powerful Eric via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 05/13/21
I started listening to Love and Abuse shortly after I broke up with my toxic/emotionally abusive bf. I’ve learned so much about everything that happened through this podcast. Starting from the top where I was love bombed, and kind of manipulated till the end where I couldn’t tolerate any more bad...Read full review »
aimhal via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 04/26/21
I am going through a difficult time (divorce) and you have helped me tremendously, I listen to you podcast every day when I walk my dog, I find your comments sincere and straight forward, you don’t need a PhD, although you are very professional so don’t listen to negative comments “haters will be...Read full review »
Salma3107* via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 04/25/21
I stumbled upon Love & Abuse a few weeks after I learned my husband was sharing intimate photos of me on the internet. He was doing this while away on vacation with friends and he never came back. Ive not spoken with nor seen him since... nothing. With Paul’s help, I was able to slowly,...Read full review »
e_a_b1983 via Apple Podcasts · United States of America · 04/19/21
I have been listening to theses podcasts for well over a year, it really is insightful especially from a mans point of view.
Charl77 via Apple Podcasts · Great Britain · 03/23/21
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