Positive Intelligence is a practical approach to help you be your best through self-regulation and self-differentiation. This two-part series explains what it is and how it can help you. Show Notes: Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad Chamine Take the Saboteur Assessment | Positive Intelligence Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for...

It's getting harder and harder for us to work together across differences. Here's a family systems take on why, as well as what you can do about it. Show Notes: Can We Just Coexist? by Dennis Sanders Future Christian Podcast Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

The Eightfold Path is a core set of Zen Principles that can help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: What is the Eightfold Path? | Zen-Buddhism.net Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Self-differentiation has a certain "Zen-ness" to it that I think is worth exploring. Here is my take. Show Notes: Seeing People as They Are - by Kathleen Smith (substack.com) What do Zen Buddhists Believe? (zen-buddhism.net) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Leadership through self-differentiation is counter-intuitive. Here are five things that well-intentioned leaders do, that non-anxious leaders do not. Show Notes: 5 Well-Intentioned Behaviors That Can Hurt Your Team by Nihar Chhaya Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Self-management, self-awareness, social awareness and relationship management are all aspects of emotional intelligence that can help you be a non-anxious presence. Here’s how. Show Notes: Improving Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Emotional Intelligence Toolkit Quick Stress Relief Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. This episode explains how it relates to family systems theory. Show Notes: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: AN OVERVIEW  Dr. Manoranjan Tripathy Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Leading change inevitably involves dealing with resistance. Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space for difficult conversations. Here’s how. Show Notes: Calling People Forward Instead of Out: Ten Essential Steps by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski How We Ended Racism: Realizing a New Possibility in One Generation by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski Episode 264: 3 Ways Avoidance Increases Anxiety and 3 Things You Can Do About It Find out more about...

Leading change inevitably involves dealing with resistance. Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space for difficult conversations. Here's how. Show Notes: Calling People Forward Instead of Out: Ten Essential Steps by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski Find out more about the FREE Jenny Brown Book Study. How to be a non anxious person in this political season w/Jack Shitama - Minding the Gap | Podcast on Spotify Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader...

Daniel Goleman is known for his Emotional Intelligence work. He described six leadership styles and when to use them. This episode interprets them from a family systems perspective. Show Notes: Leadership That Gets Results by Daniel Goleman 6 Common Leadership Styles — and How to Decide Which to Use When by Rebecca Knight Find out more about the FREE Jenny Brown Book Study. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message:...

The polarized presidential election is a major source of anxiety this year. Here's how you can buck the trend. Show Notes: How to survive another Trump-Biden election by Amanda Ripley Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Non-anxious leaders know how to take a healthy stand with those who make them anxious. Understanding non-violent communication can help. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. Here are six ways EQ can help you be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 6 Super Effective Ways to Show Your Emotional Intelligence at Work by Marcel Schwantes Episode 122: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 1 of 2) Episode 123: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 2 of 2) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my...

Learning to self-differentiate in anxious situations doesn't come naturally. Understanding the science of performing under pressure can help. Show Notes: Thinking About the Consequences in the Moment of Decision from Admired Leadership Field Notes The science of performing under pressure with Sian Beilock from the Re-Thinking Podcast with Adam Grant The Science of Choking Under Pressure by Alyson Meister and Maude Lavanchy Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website....

When we diagnose others, we avoid taking responsibility for self. Here's what that looks like and how we can do things better. Show Notes: Here's What Happens When We Stop Diagnosing Each Other by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Many leaders who want to make an impact are people pleasers. Yet, this leads to over commitment and overwhelm. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk Podcast Episode 230: How to Say "No" as a Non-Anxious Presence Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Non-anxious leaders have a confidence that is based in knowing their goals and values, as well as embracing humility, curiousity and courage. This is both attractive and influential. Here’s how it works. Show Notes: 5 habits of confident people by Stephanie Vozza Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Complaining is not helpful to you or those you lead. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: The Happy Way to Drop Your Grievances by Arthur C. Brooks Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

This episode explores why parents are so annoying to their children from a family systems standpoint. Understanding how to do things differently will make you a better parent and leader. Show Notes: What makes parents so annoying, even to their middle-aged children? by Carolyn Hax Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message:...

Patrick Lencioni's book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, helps you understand what makes for ineffective and effective teams. This episode tells you what you can do about it. Show Notes: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

We use psychological avoidance to manage anxiety, yet it actually makes things worse. Here's how to recognize it and address it. Show Notes: Avoidance, not anxiety, may be sabotaging your life by Luana Marques Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Taking responsibility for self means not making assumptions about others are thinking. Here's what that looks like and how to do things differently. Show Notes: How Anxiety Distorts Your To-Do List by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Self-differentiation is complicated. My own experience with my mother illustrates this. Show Notes: Hiroshima survivor tells her story as G7 world leaders meet in the Japanese city - CBS News --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Knowing the characteristics of a chronically anxious system, as well as the principles of leadership through self-differentiation makes all the difference. Show Notes: ⁠A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix⁠ by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message