This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, alone, and confused. In this episode, I will outline six steps for how to support a loved one who has experienced sexual trauma and also the importance of helping yourself throughout this process. My intention is to support you in learning more about the...

In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone who enjoys being alone, but still struggles to put themselves out into the world authentically. They desire connection, but fear being left all alone or unaccepted. I discuss abandonment and how it is often connected to self-abandonment, and how these moments throughout our life...

What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don’t know what to do. I discuss how to navigate this situation, steps to gain clarity around the relationship, how to be honest with yourself and your friend, and how to decide if you should remain friends or let the relationship go. My intention is to help you to access your feelings and connect back to...

In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here if you are looking for some inspiration, hope, or a new view on the healing journey. For episode show notes & transcript, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/95 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit:...

This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you’d like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain relationships you can be emotionally immature? Or do you struggle to handle or process your emotions? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who read the book Adult Children on Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson and not only saw their parents’...

Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is starting EMDR and wants an honest opinion from someone who has done EMDR before. I talk about my own experience with EMDR and share 7 things I wish I knew before starting EMDR. My hope is that for anyone considering EMDR or currently in the process this episode will...

Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don’t continue to talk about it, then you are not honoring your family? This is a follow up episode 90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma. In this episode, I focus on how to honor our ancestors and their experiences, while letting go of the guilt...

Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating “bad” men and not even know why it is happening. Today I am answering a question from a listener who grew up without a male role model and now finds herself in a pattern of dating men who hurt her. My intention for this episode is to help you to see that there’s nothing wrong...

Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I will be discussing generational trauma and how to heal from the impact of our parents and family’s unresolved trauma. We will focus on trauma that is passed down from our parents to us and how we can begin to break the cycle so we do not pass that trauma onto future...

So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build confidence. In this episode, I will share learnings from my own experiences healing my self-esteem, insecurities, and self-worth. I share four areas where I think many people’s insecurities and low self-esteem originate, and I also discuss four steps for building confidence in your...

Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by her criticisms of him. In this episode, we will learn about how society and culture impacts male vulnerability and how women can often have unrealistic expectations of men. This episode is about honoring the male experience and we’ll discuss how to ask your partner to honor your...

Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don’t want to be a third wheel? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who has been single for awhile and enjoys time alone, but struggles with feeling like a third wheel. In this episode I will be helping this listener to dive deeper into their insecurity of not feeling like they are...

Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to continue to move forward. I also discuss my own healing journey and how I have learned to persevere over time, and that perseverance and hard work were not qualities that came naturally to me, but skills I developed throughout healing. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 00:15Why...

Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to take a moment to thank you from my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. Sending you all my love. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 00:15Love Letter: 01:00Outro:  4:24 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/85 For more free resources and to learn more about...

Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have a female friendship wound. In this episode, we discuss how to heal the female friendship wound. I’ll be answering a question from a listener looking for advice on unhealthy female friendships. This listener recently went through a friendship break up, and sees a pattern, but...

Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I’ll be discussing what to do when we are living life with fear, general anxiety, or anticipatory anxiety over things that we can’t predict or control. I’ll be answering a question from a listener who is struggling with feeling like they are afraid of everything and always coming up with worst case...

Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who struggles with the holidays because of people pleasing tendencies and being an empath. I talk about what it means to be a people pleaser and where this pattern often originates from, and what it means to be an...

In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is struggling after a break up. Her and her ex broke up because his family did not approve of her because she is from a different culture. They have struggled to communicate about the problem and now she wants to know if she should wait for him or if it’s time to move on. My intention...

In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them feeling down and defeated. We will learn how disappointment is often our psyche’s way of telling us that we have unrealistic expectations or that we are attached to a future outcome rather than living in the present. My intention for this episode is to help you in understanding...

It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we create in our teenage years, and why the root of many of our adult problems are actually based on those untrue beliefs about life that we developed in our teen years. My intention for this episode is to assist you in connecting back with your inner teenager so that you can...

This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after experiencing sexual assault or rape?” After sexual trauma, many survivors continue to suffer from lingering feelings of low self-worth, fear, anxiety, depression, and feeling stuck or lost.  In this episode, I am going to dive into self-worth, why your sense of self-worth is impacted by sexual assault and rape, and how to begin the process of...

Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are being honest with ourselves. In this episode, I answer two listener questions, one from a listener who is conflicted after finding out that their partner cheated again, and one from a listener who wants to know why she keeps making excuses for her partner’s infidelity. My intention for this episode is to help you to begin to bring awareness to...

Have you ever felt like you aren’t enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren’t you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have you ever felt like you aren’t good for your partner or to be in a relationship? Or maybe you feel like you just can’t ever get it right at work? In this episode, we will discuss why so many of us struggle with not feeling like we are enough. We will discuss the tough feelings you may feel and identify the root cause for these beliefs. My intention...

Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, embarrassment, or shame. The fear of rejection can be overwhelming and can have other impacts on your life as well.  In this episode, I discuss rejection, what rejection is, why it is so painful, and how to heal from feeling rejected in relationships. I also answer two listener questions: one from someone who recently felt rejected by someone they...