Shelley helps you to understand the causes of overthinking and how to relax your mind. This podcast explores signs of overthinking and offers strategies to deal with it. In this podcast: Becoming aware of overthinkingMental, physical and emotional symptoms of overthinking. Breaking the belief that overthinking is productive.3 ways that you can challenge overthinking; taking a practical approach, a physiological approach, or an experiential approach.2 exercises that shift your nervous...

Today's episode is a deeply personal exploration of pet loss and its emotional toll. Join me as we navigate the intricate layers of grief, eating for comfort, and finding ways to feel better after losing a pet. Let's embark on this heartfelt exploration together. Add your beloved pet to this post To receive my blog post about how I took back control of my eating, get your Comfort Eating Recovery Starter Kit (below). Here’s another podcast you will love: Reset your Autonomic Nervous System...

This​ is how to gain back control of procrastination and autopilot.If you started a diet or exercise regime in the New Year but now struggle to keep it going, it might be because you didn't understand your process well enough.  It's normal for most of us to struggle with procrastination. But there are reasons for this and much you can do to step away from it. In ​today's podcast​, I'm going to show you how 'failing' can help you. Change is about more than just forcing yourself to do...

Nurturing yourself through the pressures of Christmas. Part of the reason we eat so much at Christmas is that it's so easy to do it. Our whole culture makes it easy for us to do so. However, there are many traditions and habits associated with Christmas that can create pressure and obligations. One way to control your eating during Christmas is to politely decline food that you don't really want. This is the second of my Christmas podcasts, where I talk about the pressures of Christmas, and...

Welcome to the first of three Christmas podcasts, where I talk about the different feelings we have during the holiday season. Today, I focus on how it can be hard to deal with loss during Christmas. It can be tough if someone you love isn't there, if you had a difficult relationship, or if you just feel sad during this time of year. I want to support you and give you permission to feel your grief. I'll share stories, talk about love and grief, offer tips for taking care of yourself during...

One of the biggest reasons people seek support from me is the fear of passing on their habits to their children.  According to statistics, children and young people are using food to cope with mental health issues, more than ever before. In this week's podcast, I talk about 5 ways you can help the young person in your care. Your next podcast  Are You An EMOTIONAL Eater? Here's How To Find Out:...

“Today I talk about the biggest mistakes I made when trying to stop comfort eating and lose weight. I now advise against being too hard on yourself and going on strict diet. “ Shelley says it's really important to be kind to yourself and have self-compassion when trying to recover. She also thinks it's helpful to pay attention to your senses while eating, and be aware of how you feel when you’re choosing what to eat. Shelley has created a 'Comfort Eating Recovery Starter Kit' with useful...

Do you worry too much about what others think of you? This can lead to overeating for comfort. Today, I talk about trying to be perfect and how it can have bad effects, like causing overeating, stress, and feeling really sad. I point out that perfectionists have unrealistic expectations for themselves and explain why. I suggest building up your own self-esteem and judging yourself in a reasonable way. You might like this podcast next: Imposter Syndrome & Comfort Eating Citations What is...

 Today I talk about money and how our thoughts about money affect us. I mention money problems from the past and ask questions to help you think about your own money beliefs and influences. I conclude that it's important to take care of yourself on the inside.  I also talk about overeating on holiday. Citations The Money Panel The Soul of Money 'Reclaiming the Wealth of Our Inner Resources' - Lynne Twist  Support the show Want Shelley's Comfort Eating Recovery Starter Kit? Subscribe here for...

In this podcast, I talk about how having good relationships can make you feel happy. I also discuss the importance of setting boundaries when you interact with others. The podcast explains how bonding, trust, and connection affect your brain chemicals. I also share stories about dealing with feeling anxious or being rejected by others. Throughout the podcast, you are encouraged to be kind to yourself. Citations The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and...

Today, learn how your brain tricks you into avoiding exercise and why it's crucial to overcome this instinct. Understand the neuroscience of movement, uncover the surprising benefits of any form of physical activity, and explore strategies to make exercise enjoyable again. From childhood fears to unexpected swimming adventures, I share personal stories that will inspire you to break free from your exercise limitations. Citations The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness,...

Today, we begin by addressing the common issue of self-disgust. I encourage listeners to challenge negative self-talk. I then dive into the topic of seasonal stress, highlighting signs of troublesome stress levels. The podcast provides practical methods to nurture self-compassion and well-being. Support the showDo you have a question or comment? [email protected] Want to go further? Join my Comfort Eating Recovery Community or find my latest media & programme support...

Today, we explore strategies for coping with the sudden shift into Autumn or Fall. Shelley shares her personal journey and how she prepared for a radio show aimed at helping people to embrace autumn. She delves into the concept of disappointment, encouraging listeners to challenge their thoughts and reframe their expectations.. The episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for navigating the emotional challenges of the autumn transition. Support the showDo you have a question or...

Today, Shelley explains the stress cycle associated with evening binge-eating. She lists recognisable signs of a stress state. Describing physiological responses to stress, she details how fight, flight, or freeze responses manifest. Listeners are guided to assess their own stress states by checking various physical and emotional markers, including breathing patterns, body tension, and irritability. Shelley explains what a panic attack is. emphasizes the importance of self-compassion in...

Today, we explore the relationship between having a busy life, anxiety, and comfort eating. We delve into the reasons why people work so hard, naming potential triggers; addiction to productivity, fear of stopping, the desire to please others, or anxiety. The podcast highlights how these contribute to distress, which can lead to comfort eating after the day's work is done. Shelley emphasises understanding and addressing the emotional roots of these behaviours, and offers insights on coping...

Today, Shelley explores the most common time we overeat; in the evening. Drawing from her expertise in helping people recover from emotional eating, Shelley discusses why we overeat in the evening. She explores hunger, habit, lack of preparation, and emotional responses to daily stress.  Shelley offers a four-step process for breaking this pattern, encompassing observation of thoughts, habits, emotional states, and the purpose of binge-eating.  This episode concludes with a recap of the...

In this episode, we explore 6 strategies to recover from emotional eating, focusing on the journey to rediscovering life in its fullness. Our aim is to provide valuable insights into the recovery process and offer six life-changing options for those seeking to break free from addictive behaviours. Not sure your eating IS emotional? - If you want to uncover the emotion behind your eating, here's a short course for you: https://underground-confidence.passion.io Other podcasts mentioned in...

The focus here is on the effect of stress on the brain and its role in addiction, particularly comfort eating. Shelley starts by discussing how stress alters the brain, making certain behaviours or substances more appealing. She highlights the link between stress and addiction, explaining that stress addiction can be challenging to overcome. Shelley shares insights from Gabor Maté's book, emphasizing that addictions often originate from painful experiences. She delves into the significance...

In this episode, we discuss addictive personality and various forms of addiction, particularly focusing on comfort eating. I talk about the concept of addictive personality, stating that it oversimplifies the reality of addiction.    Addiction can manifest in different forms, not just related to substances but also behaviours like internet scrolling, binge-watching, and overworking. This podcast delves into the brain's chemistry, explaining how dopamine and endorphins are involved in...

Are you feeling trapped, ignored, or unloved in a relationship? Navigating the rough seas of a relationship saddled with a selfish person or narcissist isn't an easy journey. In this engaging episode of Underground Confidence, I share my wisdom on dealing with a narcissistic or difficult person. We take a deep look into effective coping strategies, underscoring the importance of communication, honesty, and expressing rather than suppressing emotions. Delving into the crucial aspect of...

Here's an intriguing question, have you ever felt an unhealthy attachment to a past partner that feels a lot like addiction? In this candid discussion, I share my findings on post-relationship addiction, an issue that has a surprising number of people in its grip. Drawn from my own experiences and the experiences of others, I've developed 10 practical strategies designed to help you break free from this addictive cycle. I also describe how these strategies can help you with comfort eating...

Does something feel 'off' in your relationship? Here, I peel back the layers of subtle narcissism, providing you with the tools to spot the warning signs and understand the behaviours often exhibited by covert narcissists. I even share my personal journey of dating someone with narcissistic tendencies, demonstrating how these traits can manifest in day-to-day situations. This may be a cause of your comfort eating or any distracting addiction. We also delve into the subtler traits of covert...

The wide spectrum of narcissism (and lack of it) and its profound impact on our harmful habits, self-worth, and relationships, is the subject today. Learn about the delicate balance between selflessness and self-importance, and how different influences shape our narcissistic tendencies.  This episode gives insights into personal growth, self-worth, and how our level of self-centredness can fluctuate throughout our lives. Citations Rethinking Narcissism - Dr. Craig Malkin Another podcast...

Are you tired of feeling like your emotions are constantly dismissed or undermined? In the latest episode, we dive deep into the topic of emotional invalidation and its impact on our wellbeing and relationships. Join me as I share my own experiences and those of one of my clients, as we uncover ten ways to bounce back from emotionally invalidating situations with a positive sense of self.  Creating a safe space where emotions are honoured and respected is crucial, and processing these...